Therapists’ Blog 14 - Couples Institute

Your Yearly Update from the Wisdom 2.0 Conference

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Each year I enjoy a special weekend attending the Wisdom 2.0 conference with Pete, our daughter, Molly, and some other special friends. A second pleasure of the

Painful Interactions Are Defining Moments in Couples Therapy

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Sooner or later you will encounter a situation where one partner is aggressively triggered in your office. They explode after hearing an unexpected comment. At that point

To Think or Not to Think

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Here are two very different couples therapy resources for you to consider… Long ago I immersed myself in studying object relations theory. Winnicott was one of the

Kenya: The Transformative Power of Hope

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If you have known me for a while, you know that Pete and I are very dedicated to building schools for displaced refugee communities in Kenya. I’ve

Creating Intrapsychic Change in Self-Absorbed Partners

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In my previous blog, I started showing you the elegance of using Gestalt two-chair work to transform self-absorbed parts of your clients. With self-absorbed partners, it’s important

Intrapsychic Impasses with Self-Absorbed Partners

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We’ve been on a journey together exploring the external behavior of self-absorbed partners. And although they often mislead therapists with detours and distractions, we’ve stayed focused on

The Self-Absorbed Partner, Video Two

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Click here to better understand the many challenges self-absorbed partners create for couples therapists. Here’s what you’ll learn: what happens when attention is not focused on the

The Self-Absorbed Partner, Video One

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Click below to watch this video about the troublesome traits of the self-absorbed partner. You’ll want to make sure and catch the following… 2:38, a confession about