Couples’ Blog

Synergy For the Rest of Us

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Something was bugging me recently. It was making me feel irritable, and I couldn’t quite put my finger on it. So I spent some time thinking hard

Can You Be as Considerate as a Rattlesnake?

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Imagine you are leisurely walking through the woods thoroughly enjoying the perfect weather and the serenity of nature. Then you are jolted into a salvo of fear – by

What Really Drives Connection?

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We often say that healthy communication is the cornerstone of a great relationship, but is it? Neuroscience has helped us evaluate what really drives connection in relationship.

8 Ways to Put Sex Therapists Out of Business

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I’ve been a sex therapist for 39 years. That’s over 40,000 sessions with individuals and couples – from every conceivable background, with every imaginable problem. And yet

Relief or Happiness – What Do You Choose?

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I work with a lot of couples where one partner takes great pride in being a problem solver. I, too, am a big believer in solving problems.

The gift of a stronger connection and a stronger union

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Create some quiet uninterrupted time and space to do this exercise with your partner. Imagine if your partner focused on bringing out the best in you. Each

The Labyrinth of Love – The Path to a Soulful Relationship

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By Chelsea Wakefield, PhD, LCSW Chelsea Wakefield is an Associate Professor and Director of the Couples Center at the Psychiatric Research Institute of the University of Arkansas

Surprising marriage lesson from a palm tree climber – it’s not pruning

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I am writing from Hawaii, Ellyn’s and my favorite place to reorganize, reprioritize, and regenerate. I was walking back to our unit and stopped to watch a