Building Effective Collaboration with a Highly Anxious Client
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A common scenario that many of us see in our practices is the over-functioning wife with the anxious-avoidant husband. He is a highly anxious procrastinator and is
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Losing Direction: When Intimacy Avoiders Lead You Astray
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Partners who desperately want intimacy often push it away. It’s easy to lose direction with them. They demand more openness from their partners but then deflect, attack
Losing Control: It Happens Sooner Than You Think
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Losing control of a given couples therapy session happens sooner and faster than you think. How soon? Often it is in the first few minutes of a
Holding Developmental Tension
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Leading the way when couples are lost in their own issues How often do you encounter couples who are so deeply entangled with each other that they
Trauma, Part 3: Bringing it Together
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Over the past two months, we’ve examined some key principles behind trauma-informed care for couples. Now it’s time to take a closer look at what these concepts
Couples and Trauma, Part 1: Understanding the Challenges
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It’s been said that the past is never really dead. All our prior experiences have the power to shape our thoughts and perceptions – which in turn
Working with Couples Where One Partner Has A Severe Anxiety Disorder
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When you apply the Developmental Model in your work with couples, sometimes you will encounter issues that add an extra layer of complexity. Examples of this include
Getting Started with an Enmeshed Couple Moving to Early Differentiation
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Couples who marry young often establish enmeshed relationships that inhibit individual growth. They have not had the opportunity to mature and do much differentiation work prior to
A Powerful Exercise to Promote the Work of Differentiation in Couples
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The differentiation stage is, by far, the most difficult for many couples. Helping each partner set self-focused autonomous goals is crucial to their growth as individuals and
A Closer Look at Early Differentiation
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What is real developmental progress? How do we recognize and support it? Many couples in therapy are starting to move from the symbiotic stage into early differentiation.
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