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Each year I mentor a small group of therapists to help them set goals for their business and clinical skills. I often ask them to assess themselves by being brutally honest about their ability on a variety of criteria that I believe make for strength and effectiveness as a couples therapist. I am including some of these here so you too can assess yourself.
Couples Therapist Self-Assessment
First, read the following statements and respond with a simple yes or no. Later, come back and use a 1-7 on a continuum from very strong to very weak.
Early Sessions with Couples:
__ I have a plan when I talk to potential clients on the telephone.… Read more...Developmental Model10 Skills for Early Sessions
Each year I mentor a small group of therapists to help them set goals for their business and clinical skills. I often ask them to assess themselves by being brutally honest about their ability on a variety of criteria that I believe make for strength and effectiveness as a couples therapist. I am including some of these here so you too can assess yourself.
Couples Therapist Self-Assessment
First, read the following statements and respond with a simple yes or no. Later, come back and use a 1-7 on a continuum from very strong to very weak.
Early Sessions with Couples:
__ I have a plan when I talk to potential clients on the telephone.… Read more...Losing Direction: Where Are You Going and What Is Your Roadmap? We’ve been discussing losing control and losing momentum. Today’s post is about losing direction. It might feel like the same kind of discomfort, but the reason is different. Perhaps you are in the middle of a session and unexpectedly you feel surprised, overwhelmed, or incompetent.… Read more...What do you do when therapy stalls after the first few sessions?
Ask Ellyn #8:
I am good at getting started with couples, but after 8-10 sessions I feel stuck. I seemed to make headway at the beginning, but now my sessions seem repetitive. What am I missing? The couple keeps bringing up the same old complaints. What do you do when therapy stalls?… Read more...How do you work with a partner who is stuck in problem-solving?
Ask Ellyn #7:
A common problem I encounter is one partner who is stuck in problem-solving rather than being able to listen or be empathic. How do you start changing this dynamic?
… Read more...How do you transform demanding, self-absorbed partners?
Ask Ellyn #6:
I get incredibly frustrated with clients who are so wrapped up in themselves that they dominate sessions and make outrageous demands on their partners while expecting little of themselves. I haven’t been able to disrupt this pattern. How do you transform such selfishness?… Read more...How do you stay focused when couples bring in new complaints every week?
Ask Ellyn #5:
My angry, fighting couples dump so many issues on me. I want to keep them on track. How do you stay focused when couples bring in a new complaint every week?
… Read more...How can you mobilize ambivalent clients who resist your interventions?
Ask Ellyn #4:
I have clients who seem to have clear goals. But then they ignore my suggestions and insights. How can you mobilize clients who resist and even thwart your interventions?
… Read more...How do you help a betrayed partner get past anger after infidelity?
Ask Ellyn #3:
How do I help a betrayed partner get past unrelenting anger after infidelity is revealed?
… Read more...How do you create more effective sessions with bickering couples?
Ask Ellyn #2:
I work with a lot of angry couples that regress easily into bickering, arguing, and competing. My attempts to have them take turns talking, look at what’s under their defenses, or set goals have little effect. Do you have any suggestions about how to create more effective sessions?… Read more...How do you create change with conflict-avoidant partners?
Ask Ellyn #1:
I find conflict-avoidant couples more challenging than hostile couples. At least the angry couples have a lot of energy. How do you create change with conflict-avoidant partners?
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