Tough Couple Challenge #1: Do You Take On Too Much Responsibility?
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A few weeks ago, my husband and Couples Institute co-founder Dr. Peter Pearson and I were talking with fellow therapists about a pattern we’ve all fallen into
Conflict Avoidant Couple
Couples Who Avoid Conflict, Part 2: Principles & Techniques
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In my last post, I shared 4 key insights that can help you lay the groundwork for counseling couples who shy away from conflict. In looking at
Understanding the Dangers of Conflict Avoidance
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You’ve seen the pattern before. A couple comes to you, seeking help with tension that they just can’t understand or resolve. As you’re working to build openness
Peace at Any Price: The Conflict Avoidant Couple
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When couples are in the symbiotic-symbiotic stage of their relationship, it’s often characterized by “peace at any price.” While minimizing differences and building a strong bond early
Choice Points in Disrupting Symbiosis in Conflict-Avoidant Couples: Moving These Couples Forward
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When you are working with a conflict-avoiding couple, it is especially difficult to create positive forward moving momentum. These couples merge boundaries often and it can be
A Dialogue for Individual Goal-Setting with Conflict-Avoidant Couples
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When working with couples within The Developmental Model, it’s crucial to help partners set self-focused, individual goals to support the process of differentiation. This presents more of
Working with Couples Who Are Stuck – How The Developmental Model Helps You
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As relationships grow and develop, we often see couples who have gotten stuck in a particular developmental stage. In a previous blog post, I outlined what I
Searching for Intimacy and Aliveness
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Here is the transcript I promised you in my most recent blog post, “Moving Couples Through Defense and Ambivalence Toward Intimacy.” In that blog post I said
Moving Couples Through Defense and Ambivalence Toward Intimacy
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It’s easy for partners to say, “I want more intimacy” while having no idea what they mean and no history of expressing their desires to one another.
Building Effective Collaboration with a Highly Anxious Client
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A common scenario that many of us see in our practices is the over-functioning wife with the anxious-avoidant husband. He is a highly anxious procrastinator and is
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