Ellyn Bader

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Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., is Co-Founder & Director of The Couples Institute and creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Ellyn is widely recognized as an expert in couples therapy, and since 2006 she has led innovative online training programs for therapists. Professionals from around the world connect with her through internet, conference calls and blog discussions to study couples therapy.

Ellyn’s first book, "In Quest of the Mythical Mate," won the Clark Vincent Award by the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy and is now in its 18th printing. She has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including "The Today Show" and "CBS Early Morning News," and she has been quoted in many publications including "The New York Times," "The Oprah Magazine" and "Cosmopolitan."

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6 years ago

good idea.

Vicki Lundgren
6 years ago

Thanks Ellyn. I find your insights helpful and your willingness to share them unusually generous.

6 years ago

Thank you Ellyn, You are so generous, wise and relational. Thanks so much for being the role model you are.

Ephraim Frankel, MFT, Milwaukee, WI, USA

Thanks Ellyn for challenging my thinking here. Low motivation is such a fascinating, vital dynamic where some v intricate, empowering therapy and life experience can happen.
It’s always good to learn more about it.

Claudia Crawford
6 years ago

Thanks Ellyn,

You are always raising issues with which it seems I am dealing. You are so generous with your time. This is an amazing opportunity and I am excited to participate.

6 years ago

I always appreciate your wisdom when it comes to challenging clients and situations!

Glenna Linder
6 years ago

I have benefited greatly from the information that you share online and from the material that I have bought from The Couples Institute. I am grateful and look forward to learning more from you over the years.

Lisa M. Stanton
6 years ago

Ellyn, thank you for all you do to help us! I just answered all of your questions re a partner’s motivation, but couldn’t find a place to type in my name. Hope you can tell it’s from me. Lisa

Maggie Matheson
6 years ago

Thanks Ellyn. I came to a workshop of yours and Peters in Melbourne some years ago and found it to be one of the most useful workshops on couples therapy I have ever been to. I use your techniques and suggestions often and feel they are so wise, sensible and down to earth. Thank you!
Low motivation is a really interesting one. It seems that so often couples (and individuals) are happy to sit in the room with you and feel that’s all they need to do!!

Denise Carlin, M.S.
6 years ago

Thanks for your hard work, your dedication to help others, and your willingness to share your knowledge. Your ideas are clear and thought-provoking, and help me to find more effective ways of working with clients I appreciate hearing from you and I appreciate the opportunity to participate!

Sheila Longerbeam
6 years ago

Thanks, Ellen. I look forward to your comments. I had never isolated motivation as an area to target in treatment. But it is of course, an important one.

6 years ago


Bea Schild, Psychotherapist and Counsellor, Berne Switzerland

Thanks Ellyn, I am very glad, I get a chance to participate.