Couples Therapy

How to Get the Most From Your Couples Therapy

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Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or

How to Get the Most from Our Work Together

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Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them.

I have found most couples approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. They expect to learn some new or better skills. However, most people hope their partner will do most of the learning in problem areas.
After 30 years of clinical experience and specializing in working with thousands of couples, I have arrived at some guidelines that can make our work more effective.… Read more…

Couples therapy with one partner who is stuck.

Couples Therapy: Confronting a Stuck, Betrayed Partner

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For this blog, I’d like to address a common challenge in couples therapy: how to confront a betrayed partner who remains in a victim position

Confrontation Video: Challenging Hypocrisy

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With certain presenting problems, it’s obvious that some confrontation will be required. For example, the denial associated with drugs, alcohol or gambling addiction will inevitably

Avoid Losing Control, Momentum or Direction in Couples Therapy

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Here are links to all 9 blog posts in my series on losing control, momentum or direction in couples therapy. The first three blogs are

How to Stun Your Therapist (Or Your Spouse) With Your Attitude.

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If you happen to be in couples therapy just say this at your next meeting: Today I’m here to change my attitude about change, because

Motivation in Couples Therapy

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Regression and its Impact in Couples Therapy

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This month let’s look at regression in couples therapy. The old adage says “where the attention goes, the energy flows.” Regressed partners in couples therapy

Attachment and Differentiation in Couples Therapy

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This year’s couples conference has now come and gone. Once again we enjoyed dynamic presentations from state of the art thinkers and practioners, such as