Dr. Ellyn Bader is Co-Founder & Director of The Couples Institute and creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Ellyn is widely recognized as an expert in couples therapy, and since 2006 she has led innovative online training programs for therapists. Professionals from around the world connect with her through internet, conference calls and blog discussions to study couples therapy. Ellyn’s first book, "In Quest of the Mythical Mate," won the Clark Vincent Award by the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy and is now in its 18th printing. She has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including "The Today Show" and "CBS Early Morning News," and she has been quoted in many publications including "The New York Times," "The Oprah Magazine" and "Cosmopolitan."
You’ve probably seen couples who are struggling because of too much reactivity and inadequate ability to tolerate differences. That was the challenge in this case that I consulted on a few years ago: a hostile dependent couple on the brink of divorce, caught in a cycle of accusation, withdrawal, and escalating distrust. What made the […]
In Part 1, we explored why individual therapy can sometimes stall when working with relationship distress. It’s often because of the absence of a relational lens. So… How do you bring that lens into individual therapy – when only one partner is in the room? Holding Two Realities at Once To do effective individual therapy […]
In 1941, Sławomir Rawicz did the impossible and became the first man to walk out of a Siberian labor camp and survive. He braved frostbite and wind blindness, surviving on leather and melted snow. He crossed the Gobi Desert in summer heat that cracked his skin and shrank his tongue in his mouth. And 4,000 […]
A common scenario that many of us see in our practices is the over-functioning wife with the anxious-avoidant husband. He is a highly anxious procrastinator and is often not accountable for what he says he will do. Working with this dynamic can be challenging because of the extensive intrapsychic issues that exist with the longstanding […]
