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Please think about a time when you lost control of a session. Were you too caught up in your own discomfort, anxiety, or discouragement to contemplate specifically
When you are doing Initiator-Inquirer sessions, be sure to watch how partners function in their assigned roles. The combination of the role and each partner’s functioning will
I am pleased that many readers took the time to think about the last transcript I posted. I enjoyed reading your perspectives and seeing your comments about
Too many couples’ problems are deeply rooted in a complex web of beliefs, hopes, disillusionments, and expectations. “You owe me this.” “I won’t change until he does.”
I am excited to share with you reflections on our trip to Kenya. It was an unbelievable trip, and I am deeply grateful to the therapists and
Finding out that a client has been lying to you and their spouse about ongoing infidelity is very tricky. Suddenly what was already a difficult infidelity repair case gets a whole lot tougher.
Let’s look at what happens when a couple starts a session by dumping the fight of the week on you. Here is one example of what you
Let’s tackle partners who make outrageous narcissistic or entitled demands on their partner or on you.
It is not uncommon to hear couples say they don’t argue. Many couples describe their anxiety about fighting or expressing disagreements. These conflict avoidant systems are not
Note from the Couples Institute team: Ellyn wrote this blog post before leaving for Kenya but we couldn’t post it until today. So she’s there already –
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