Conflict avoidance comes in many forms.
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Conflict avoidance comes in many forms. Do you recognize these? 1. Some couples avoid so many issues that you feel enormous tension just sitting in the room
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Working with Couples Who Are Stuck – How The Developmental Model Helps You
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As relationships grow and develop, we often see couples who have gotten stuck in a particular developmental stage. When you approach couples therapy from a developmental framework,
Tough Couple Challenge: Sparking the Desire for Change
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Here you are, preparing to meet with a couple who came to you seeking wisdom and guidance that will lead them to a closer, more supportive relationship.
Tough Couple Challenge: Do You Take On Too Much Responsibility?
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A few weeks ago, Dr. Peter Pearson and I were talking with fellow therapists about a pattern we’ve all fallen into at one time or another. Pete
Building Effective Collaboration with a Highly Anxious Client
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A common scenario that many of us see in our practices is the over-functioning wife with the anxious-avoidant husband. He is a highly anxious procrastinator and is
Losing Direction: When Intimacy Avoiders Lead You Astray
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Partners who desperately want intimacy often push it away. It’s easy to lose direction with them. They demand more openness from their partners but then deflect, attack
Losing Direction: Where Are You Going and What Are You Using For a Roadmap?
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We’ve been discussing losing control and losing momentum. Today’s post is about losing direction. It might feel like the same kind of discomfort, but the reason is
Losing Momentum: After an Affair
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Losing Momentum: When One Partner Keeps Obsessing about the Details of a Partner’s Affair In today’s world of cell phones, text messages and emails, it has become
Losing Momentum: With Passive-Aggressive Partners and their Spouses
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Many therapists dread working with couples where one partner is extremely passive or passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive partners create a lot of confusion. Commitments are regularly broken, and criticism
Losing Momentum: Do You Start Strong and Then See the Energy Fizzle?
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It’s pretty common to start couples therapy strong. You use your empathy skills and make a good connection with each partner. Each one has a chance to
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