Recently we were fortunate to be published in The Oprah Magazine. It’s a publication that always puts things in a practical perspective. We were asked to offer a few insights into the frustrating and perplexing arena of fighting couples. You’ll find us in the November issue of The Oprah Magazine, on page 121.
The year 2014 marks 30 years of using our Developmental Model of Couples Therapy to view normal struggles and help couples succeed in overcoming relationship challenges. We created this effective lens to view relationships as they naturally happen, as partners struggle between the ‘me’ and the ‘we.’
In other words we all go through the following stages of a relationship: 1) Bonding, 2) Differentiation, 3) Exploration, 4) Re-connection, and 5) Synergy. We may not necessarily go through them in order or at the same time as our partner. We can though learn tools and techniques to help us successively progress through them and not get stuck.
Our brief comments in the magazine contain some unique insights in viewing your relationship. We also have several articles below that go a little deeper into the meaning of this model and the positive influence it can have on your relationship.
Hopefully these articles have given you some tools – and relief – around what may be transpiring in your relationship right now.
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You’re not alone in your struggles. We’ve helped hundreds of couples in the San Francisco Bay Area and around the world to become more loving partners, and we’d like to help you.
Pete and Ellyn