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Three Tricky Questions

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1. What would you be willing to do to save your relationship? You don’t need to change, how you relate might need some adjustment.
2. Success is defined by the two of you and how much you are willing to do things differently

James M
James M

While I am not a relationship therapist yet, still need my master’s, I find myself helping couples having difficulties all the time. I really enjoyed your relaxing and thought provoking approach. I look forward to reading more of your words of wisdom in the future.


I love the answers to each of the three tricky questions because they directly answer the client’s concern instead of only putting it back on them when they are in such an overwhelmed and desperate state. For #3, “Why do I have to be the one to change?”, I not only ask about how much they want the relationship to thrive but also whether any change can help at the individual level. If they are not in a space where they are motivated to change for the other or for the relationship, what about change for the individual, that will benefit that individual, whether she/he stays in the relationship?

Petra Uhlenbrock
Petra Uhlenbrock

Dear members of Couples Insitute,

I get your emails regularly and I am more and more dissatisfied. There are “invitations” to get “free answers” but then there are more clicks I have to make, more social media where I have to press the like-buttons or programs I have to submit – and at least I don’t get the answeres at all. Sorry, we in Germany are maybe not so used to facebook or other social networks via internet, we still talk from person to person or on phone. I expected a therapy institution to be athentic and less tricky in getting more data from me. So where is the answer now? I already gave you my email-address and name and this should be enough. I don’t want to be manipulated to subscribe to more and more networks and loose the overview on what my personal data is used for. Sorry for clear words but it happened again and again with your mails and I am going to quit your mailing list now.

All the best for you
Petra Uhlenbrock, Germany

Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

Dr. Peter Pearson, Ph.D., Relationship & Teamwork Expert for Entrepreneur Couples Pete has been training and coaching couples to become a strong team since 1984 when he co-founded The Couples Institute with his psychologist wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader. Their popular book, “Tell Me No Lies,” is about being honest with compassion and growing stronger as a couple. Pete has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including “The Today Show,” "Good Morning America,” and "CBS Early Morning News,” and quoted in major publications including “The New York Times,” “Oprah Magazine,” “Redbook,” “Cosmopolitan,” and “Business Insider.”

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