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Managing Control Issues in Couples Therapy

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When therapists ask me which tool has had the biggest impact on couples around the world, the answer is always the same: the Initiator–Inquirer (I-I)

Building Effective Collaboration with a Highly Anxious Client

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A common scenario that many of us see in our practices is the over-functioning wife with the anxious-avoidant husband. He is a highly anxious procrastinator

Working with Early Trauma in the Initiator-Inquirer

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When you are doing Initiator-Inquirer sessions, be sure to watch how partners function in their assigned roles. The combination of the role and each partner’s

Helplessness Underlies Many Control Struggles

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I am pleased that many readers took the time to think about the last transcript I posted. I enjoyed reading your perspectives and seeing your

A Couples Therapy Session After Infidelity: Transcript of a Role-play, Part Two

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I’ve been highlighting ways I’ve used Initiator-Inquirer when working with couples who have experienced infidelity. Recently I shared a role play with a couple we

Clinical Transcript Reveals Symbiotic Yearnings and Hidden Barriers to Commitment

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Therapists who train with me know that many couples who come to therapy are stuck in symbiotic patterns that impede the growth of each partner

Searching for Intimacy and Aliveness

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Here is the transcript I promised you in my most recent blog post, “Moving Couples Through Defense and Ambivalence Toward Intimacy.” In that blog post

Confrontation Transcript: Indecision After Infidelity

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Moving along in our series on confrontation, I wanted to share a series of confrontations made by my husband, Dr. Peter Pearson, during a 90-minute

Shifting Relationship Impasses, Part Four

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Translating Internal Conflicts as an Emotional Bridge Before sharing the final part of this transcript from a session on shifting relationship impasses, I want to