Hello Undifferentiated Self
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In the Bader-Pearson Developmental Model of Couples therapy, you may hear about differentiation. But what is it? This blog post includes the poem, “Undifferentiated Self,” which touches
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Welcome to our Couples’ Blog. Here we post occasional articles and practical exercises for couples who wish to improve their marriage or relationship. Look through the title and beginnings of articles below, and click any title to read them. Or scan the list of categories to find topics that interest you. You can also use the search box to find articles containing specific words. It’s good to know you’re not alone.
Pete’s Interview – Stages of Relationships – Triggers
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Thanks for your interest in my recent interview on NPR. I hope you get some valuable insights for your relationship regarding: The stages of a relationship or
The Cookie Jar Marriage
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The cookie jar is an interesting concept. It’s so much more than a storage container! It’s where kids head for an immediate snack when feeling down or
A grave digger’s perspective about one kind of marriage
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I used to be a grave digger. College summer job. No heavy equipment. Just two good shovels, pick axe, tape measure, string, and a tarp. I wasn’t
Teamwork: From now on if someone calls me chicken . . .
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From now on if someone calls me “chicken,” I’ll take that as a huge compliment. For any person – especially a male – being called chicken is
“I just want my partner to understand me.”
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In my practice, I hear many couples say, ” I just want my partner to understand me. Who wouldn’t want that? You tell your partner things, they
Why couples therapy isn’t just for when things are going wrong
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Most people tend to associate couples therapy with intractable problems that they and their partner are struggling with. Couples usually wait until their situation has reached the
Rituals for Mother’s Day
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Contrary to the cynic’s belief, Mother’s Day is not an invention of Hallmark. The roots actually predate Hallmark, going back to ancient Egyptians, Greeks and Romans. Now’s
Reflections on Motherhood
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Most couples have no idea about the stresses of parenthood before the first child arrives. Sleep deprivation, economic stress, cranky kids, too little time together and challenging
What new marriages can learn from failed restaurants
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As you probably know, the divorce rate for American couples in a first marriage is about 50%. When you factor in the high numbers of couples who
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