The gift of a stronger connection and a stronger union

Create some quiet uninterrupted time and space to do this exercise with your partner.

Imagine if your partner focused on bringing out the best in you.

Each partner has different talents, skills, and knowledge than the other.

Do you capitalize on each other’s strengths? 

Great teams do that. Quarterbacks don’t play linebacker. Drummers don’t play the guitar.

So here is an exercise to help you create a stronger team based on strengths.

Each of you writes down at least three things your partner does better than you. And then write why each of those things is meaningful to you.

Before sharing what you each wrote, you both try to guess what the other person described. 

This forces you to think about your relationship from your partner’s perspective, which is always a good thing to do.

The following list are some areas of talents to help you get started:

  • Affection
  • Brainstorming for the future
  • Creativity
  • Exercise and fitness
  • Faith
  • Family
  • Fair fights or disagreements
  • Finances
  • Forgiveness
  • Having fun
  • Making friends
  • Meal planning and preparation
  • Parenting
  • Planning/organization
  • Sense of humor
  • Travel
  • Using free time
  • Work ethic

Then after discussing what you each wrote, go one layer deeper.

You and your partner both write this: This is what I think I would need to do to bring out the best in you.

Then again, you each try to guess what the other wrote.

Discuss it and come up with a next step to take in order to move closer to bringing out the best in your partner.

You are building a foundation for greater teamwork and stronger connections. 

And that’s something two dozen roses can’t match. 

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This is what marriages n relationships need

Jen Graves
Jen Graves

I love this. Thank you, Pete!

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