conflict

Understanding the Hidden Dangers of Conflict Avoidance

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You’ve seen the pattern before. A couple comes to you, seeking help with tension that they just can’t understand or resolve. As you’re working to

Heart stops dominoes from all falling down

Why couples therapy isn’t just for when things are going wrong

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Most people tend to associate couples therapy with intractable problems that they and their partner are struggling with. Couples usually wait until their situation has

Deep Listening on a Japanese Subway

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An account by the first American Aikido Master trained in Japan, Terry Dobson The train clanked and rattled through the suburbs of Tokyo on a

3 Weddings and 4 Questions

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There are only three weddings happening this year at The Couples Institute. And we are being facetious – we haven’t had a wedding of an

Do Your Couples Get High From Cheating?

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I heard an interesting interview a few weeks ago as I was driving to work. Michael Smerconish was interviewing Celia Moore from the London Business

Practical Perspective for Fighting Couples

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Recently we were fortunate to be published in The Oprah Magazine. It’s a publication that always puts things in a practical perspective. We were asked

It’s not about the nail

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Maybe you’re not exactly hitting the nail on the head when you try to communicate. Usually it’s not about the nail. We love how this

Lies to the Self, Lies to the Partner and Lies to the Therapist

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When working with a couple in the aftermath of infidelity, how do you approach lies and a history of deception? When is a lie “just

Couples Resources

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This page, organized by the type of program, summarizes the various couples resources that are offered by The Couples Institute. These are in addition to