conflict

What’s That You Said? The Fears That Prevent Us From Speaking Up

How much do you value being seen and heard? Do you really want a truly successful relationship? How important is it to have impact on others? Let's look at speaking up! Of course, for some people, that's easier said than done. You might prefer to sky dive without a parachute than tell another person what's really on your mind. But it is possible to develop an assertiveness connected to head and heart that clears the way for honest, empowered living-without being rude to others. Those who stay mum when they would be better off speaking their mind do so for a variety of reasons: Fear of being rejected. Any time you risk disclosing what you want and why it is important, you become vulnerable.… Read more...

27 Years Without A Fight: Can This Marriage Be Saved?

It was their first session. And the tension that filled the air was thick as grits. They'd come about an affair. Or rather, the aftershocks of it. They implored, “Can this marriage be saved?” When I asked this couple how they had argued during the twenty seven years of marriage, they could recall only three times raising their voices at each other. On the surface their marriage looked as placid as the waters that hid the Loch Ness monster. How influential was this avoidance of disagreement to their current plight? That's the question that jumped out at me. For many couples fighting is a sign of things gone awry.… Read more...