Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them.
I have found most couples approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. They expect to learn some new or better skills. However, most people hope their partner will do most of the learning in problem areas.
After 30 years of clinical experience and specializing in working with thousands of couples, I have arrived at some guidelines that can make our work more effective.… Read more…
Today we are discussing setting larger goals; what is commonly known as having a vision, and working towards them with visualization. Vision setting is the
Some partners just stubbornly refuse to be accountable for their own role in a mutual mess and you find yourself going in circles in therapy
I consult on so many cases where therapists are struggling to be effective leaders with hostile angry couples, I know it is a widespread problem.
I recently completed my 64th weekend workshop for couples. Once again I was impressed by a group of intrepid couples who were willing to leave
This month we describe a way of classifying goals into three succinct categories and we show how to use them in couples therapy sessions. Goals