Peter Pearson

 

What is love? It seems to be the primary reason for couples
getting and staying together.

Yet how do you define it? What are examples of it that can be instantly recognized?

Philosophers and poets have struggled with the concept of love for years. Well, here's another take. Someone did a small survey on examples of love and asked some of the best philosophers around-kids. Even if you've seen these quotes before, they're worth reading again.

“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy on the toilet and she doesn't
think it's gross.” Mark – age 6
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“When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love.” Rebecca- age 8
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“When someone loves you, the way they say your name is
different. You just know that your name is safe in their mouth.”
Billy – age 4
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“Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other.” Karl – age 5
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“Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your French fries without making them give you any of theirs.”
Chrissy – age 6
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“Love is what makes you smile when you're tired.” Terri – age 4

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“Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK.”
Danny – age 7
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“Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My Mommy and Daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss.”
Emily – age 8
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“Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen.” Bobby – age 7
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“If you want to learn to love better, you should start with a friend who you hate.” Nikka – age 6
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“Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday.” Noelle – age 7
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“Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” Tommy –
age 6
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“During my piano recital, I was on a stage and I was scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore.” Cindy – age 8
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“My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me before I go to sleep at night.” Clare – age 6
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“Love is when Mommy gives Daddy the best piece of chicken.”
Elaine-age 5
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“Love is when Mommy sees Daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford.” Chris – age 7
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“Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day.” Mary Ann – age 4
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“I know my older sister loves me because she gives me all her old clothes and has to go out and buy new ones.” Lauren – age 4
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“When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and
little stars come out of you.” Karen – age 7
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“You really shouldn't say ‘I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget.”
Jessica – age 8
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And the final one — Author and lecturer Leo Buscaglia once talked about a contest he was asked to judge. The purpose of the contest was to find the most caring child.  The winner was a four year old child whose next door neighbor was an elderly gentleman who had recently lost his wife. Upon seeing the man cry, the little boy went into the old gentleman's yard, climbed onto his lap, and just sat there. When his Mother asked what he had said to the neighbor, the little boy said, “Nothing, I just helped him cry.”

So how do you express your love to those who are special to you? As these quotes reveal, love doesn't always look and feel the same way.

Wishing you the best in your relationship,
Pete Pearson and Ellyn Bader

About 

Peter Pearson, Ph.D., Relationship & Teamwork Expert for Entrepreneur Couples

Pete has been training and coaching couples to become a strong team since 1984 when he co-founded The Couples Institute with his psychologist wife, Ellyn Bader.

Their popular book, “Tell Me No Lies,” is about being honest with compassion and growing stronger as a couple.

Pete has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including “The Today Show,” "Good Morning America,” and "CBS Early Morning News,” and quoted in major publications including “The New York Times,” “Oprah Magazine,” “Redbook,” “Cosmopolitan,” and “Business Insider.”

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