The Developmental Model Training Program

FAQs

How soon after I sign up will I have access to previously recorded training calls?

You will get access to the training website usually within 5 minutes. You will have immediate access to:

  • Your first written lesson (subsequent lessons will appear every 14 days after that)
  • Recordings of all of the clinical training and bonus calls
  • Handouts
  • Your Success Checklist

However, we suggest you begin with the Introduction section and follow the recommendations there. There is also a live orientation call on October 16, 2023 from 1pm-2pm Pacific Time.

How is this different from other couples training programs? Will it conflict with other trainings?

The integration of attachment theory, differentiation theory, and neuroscience has proven to be compatible with approaches used by therapists who trained throughout the United States and in more than 69 countries worldwide.

Our training receives consistent and enthusiastic feedback that it enhances and supports other approaches of working with couples. You can watch what two training graduate says about integrating The Developmental Model with other models here: Nancy and Jeremiah.

This model is compatible with Gottman, RLT, Imago, PACT, IFS, and more. In surveying existing members, 95% of therapists say it’s easy to integrate with what they already know.

I don’t have a lot of experience with couples. Will this training be too advanced?
Likely not. Over the years, the therapists who have gone through the training program typically include novices through seasoned therapists. The feedback we get is that therapists on all levels appreciate the understandable ways our strategies and interventions can be immediately applied to their own practice. If you work mainly with individuals, you will learn a lot that will influence how you approach your individual clients who are depressed, angry, or stuck due to their relationship problems. There is a special training section to show you how to apply the Developmental Model to individual clients and their relationship issues. 95% of our members say it also helps them with individual couples. You can watch how two therapists started working with only individuals here: Janae and Sue.
I have quite a bit of experience with couples. Will this just be a repeat of what I already know?
Not unless you have done extensive training with Ellyn in the Developmental Model already. The consistent feedback we get, even from therapists who have been in long-term practice, is how valuable these concepts are along with the opportunity to get feedback as you integrate them with your actual clients. 96% of our therapists said it gave them a roadmap for couples work. You can watch what experience therapists had to say here: Glen and Lori.
How much time is required for the training?
4-6 hours per month is generally ideal to go through the written lessons you receive every two weeks and join one live 90-minute clinical call per month (or catch the replay). Of course you have a wealth of resources at your fingertips if you’re looking for past calls on specific topics or want some advice on a case you are struggling with.
What day of the week and time of the day would the training occur? What are the days and times of the live training calls?

Live 90-minute training calls usually happen on Mondays or Fridays between 9 am to 1 pm Pacific. That is in response to surveys we take regularly to find out members' preferred days and times.

Currently most clinical calls are happening at 11am Pacific time. This is because we find that time works well for the largest number of global time zones. All calls are recorded so even if you miss the live calls, you will have access to video & audio recordings.

We've also added a Thursday 9am or 1pm Pacific Drop-In call once per week that works well for people in various time zones. These calls are designed to further support your learning, Q&A, and give you the opportunity to connect with other members.

Here are a few of the upcoming live orientation and clinical calls:

  • Oct 16 (Monday), 1pm – 2pm Pacific – Orientation Call (Recommended)
  • Oct 20 (Friday), 11am – 12:30pm Pacific – Clinical Call (Recommended)
  • Oct 23  (Monday), 8am – 9:30am Pacific – Bonus Call (Optional)
  • Oct 27 (Friday), 9am – 10:30am Pacific – Special Training Session (Optional)
  • Nov 3 (Friday), 11am – 12:30pm Pacific – Clinical Call (Recommended)

Optional Thursday Weekly Drop-In Calls:

  • Sept 28, 9am – 10am Pacific
  • Oct  5, 9am – 10am Pacific
  • Oct 12, 1pm-2pm -Pacific
  • Oct 19,  1pm – 2pm Pacific
  • Oct 26, 9am – 10am Pacific
When does the training program begin?
The program begins when you sign up. You will receive a welcome email, an email about your first lesson, and one with your login credentials. When you first log in, you'll find Lesson 1 waiting for you. The other lessons will follow, one every two weeks.
I'm not sure if I can invest the time in the training right now. When will you open the program again?

We typically open the program only once or twice per year, usually late January – April, and September or October.

Occasionally we will open training to the waiting list. You can get on the wait list here.

What is your refund policy?

Our Iron Clad Guarantee promises 100% satisfaction or your money back. If you're enrolling in September or October 2023, you have until October 27, 2023 to get a full refund. So you have nothing to lose – zero risk.

Order Details

Will I be able to get an invoice for the payment?

Yes, you will receive an email receipt for all purchases with The Couples Institute.

If you don't receive one, please check your spam folders before emailing ruth@couplesinstitute.com.

Can I pay by phone vs. on the website?

Yes, you can email ruth@couplesinstitute.com and she can take care of that for you, or call 877-327-5915 and someone will get back to you as soon as possible.

How do I access my bonuses?

We will email you any bonuses you qualified for after 30 days of being in the program.

I am having trouble with checking out. I keep getting an error message stating that my card has been declined.

Please email ruth@couplesinstitute.com and she will be glad to help you.

I just enrolled in the training program but I do not seem to have a user ID or password.
Please check your spam folder and be sure to whitelist admin@couplesinstitute.com. If you use gmail also check your promotions tab. An email gets sent out right after purchase. You can go to members and click on “Lost your Password?” Enter the email you used to purchase the program and you'll be prompted to reset your password. Email ruth@couplesinstitute.com if you have further questions.
My password doesn’t work or I can’t reset my password.
To reset your password go to: members and follow the instructions “Lost your Password?” You can also email ruth@couplesinstitute.com with any questions.
How soon after I sign up will I have access to previously recorded training calls?

You will get access to the training website usually within 5 minutes. You will have immediate access to:

  • Your first written lesson (subsequent lessons will appear every 14 days after that)
  • Recordings of all of the clinical training and bonus calls
  • Handouts
  • Your Success Checklist

However, we suggest you begin with the Introduction section and follow the recommendations there. There is also a live orientation call on October 16, 2023 from 1pm-2pm Pacific Time.

What is your refund policy?

Our Iron Clad Guarantee promises 100% satisfaction or your money back. If you're enrolling in September or October 2023, you have until October 27, 2023 to get a full refund. So you have nothing to lose – zero risk.

Training Program

How is this different from other couples training programs? Will it conflict with other trainings?

The integration of attachment theory, differentiation theory, and neuroscience has proven to be compatible with approaches used by therapists who trained throughout the United States and in more than 69 countries worldwide.

Our training receives consistent and enthusiastic feedback that it enhances and supports other approaches of working with couples. You can watch what two training graduate says about integrating The Developmental Model with other models here:  Nancy and Jeremiah.

This model is compatible with Gottman, RLT, Imago, PACT, IFS, and more. In surveying existing members, 95% of therapists say it’s easy to integrate with what they already know.

What book or resources do you recommend to learn more about the Developmental Model?

While the training program gives you the deepest understanding of the Developmental Model , here are three resources we recommend for learning more about it:

  1. Get our free Starter Series here.
  2. “In Quest of the Mythical Mate” Book here.
  3. “In Quest of the Mythical Mate” Kit here.

When does the training program begin?

The program begins when you sign up. You will receive a welcome email, an email about your first lesson, and one with your login credentials.

When you first log in, you'll find Lesson 1 waiting for you. The other lessons will follow, one every two weeks.

Is this a self-paced course?

Yes, this is a self-paced course for 12 months. Written lessons are delivered every two weeks.

The live clinical calls for the next few months are scheduled, and there are replays to all of the calls.

We survey new members to get their preferred days and times but typically Monday and Fridays from 9am – 1pm Pacific Time tend to be the best for most people in the different time zones.

Who is right for this training?

The training can benefit a wide variety of professionals who work with individuals in relationships or with couples. Past participants have included Psychologists, Clinical Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists, Marriage Counselors, Clergy, Mental Health Counselors, Relationship Coaches, and more.

What if several of us at an agency want to take the training?

Agency discounts are available for 3 or more people. Please email ruth@couplesinstitute.com for more information.

What if I primarily work with individuals or families?

If you currently work mainly with individuals, you will learn a lot that will influence how you approach your individual clients who are depressed, angry, or stuck due to their relationship issues.

There is a special training section to show you how to apply the Developmental Model to individual clients and their relationship issues.

Also, watch how two training graduates applied the Developmental Model to their individual practice (and then incorporated their knowledge to increase their work with couples and even later specialize in couples): Sue and Janae.

I don’t have a lot of experience with couples. Will this training be too advanced?

Likely not. Over the years, the therapists who have gone through the training program typically include novices through seasoned therapists. The feedback we get is that therapists on all levels appreciate the understandable ways our strategies and interventions can be immediately applied to their own practice.

If you work mainly with individuals, you will learn a lot that will influence how you approach your individual clients who are depressed, angry, or stuck due to their relationship problems. There is a special training section to show you how to apply the Developmental Model to individual clients and their relationship issues. 95% of our members say it also helps them with individual couples.

You can watch how two therapists started working with only individuals here: Janae and Sue.

I have quite a bit of experience with couples. Will this just be a repeat of what I already know?

Not unless you have done extensive training with Ellyn in the Developmental Model already.

The consistent feedback we get, even from therapists who have been in long-term practice, is how valuable these concepts are along with the opportunity to get feedback as you integrate them with your actual clients. 96% of our therapists said it gave them a roadmap for couples work.

You can watch what experience therapists had to say here: Glen and Lori.

Why does this training extend over the course of a year?

The truth is you need two things to be successful – not just with couples, but also in almost any area of your life. The first is knowledge of how to achieve success. The second is the dedication to acquire and apply that knowledge.

It only takes a few weeks to understand the basic stages of the model, but because it’s so robust, it can grow with you through the length of your career.

We’ve created an intentional, effective program that is generous in resources and committed to excellence.

In 12 weeks or less you will have a completely different mindset when facing tough situations!

In 12 months, you’ll be rock steady confident because you’ve steeped yourself in diagnostics, interventions, and solutions that you can’t get in regular CE courses.

What is the investment in the training program?

You get everything for around $6 a day if you join now.

It's $189/month for 12 months. If you pay for the whole year in advance it costs $1,997, saving you $271 (12%).

If you're joining in September or October 2023, you have until October 27, 2023 to receive a full refund. Just email ruth@couplesinstitute.com to request a refund, we will refund your fee.

What are the options for continuing training after the year ends?

You have unlimited access to the training site during your year of training (with an extra few weeks at the end). During this time you are free to download any lessons, handouts, and training calls.

There are 3 options for continuing training after year 1 depending on your situation:

  1. Level 1 Community (no CE's)
  2. Advanced/Level 2 (with 27 CE's for the first year)
  3. Mentor Program (opens each January for one year, no CE's)

You can learn more about these programs here or contact ruth@couplesinstitute.com.

Is the program tax deductible?

In many jurisdictions the program is tax deductible, including the U.S. Please consult with your tax professional.

Do you offer scholarships?

On occasion we will consider scholarships. Please reach out to ruth@couplesinstitute.com with more information about your situation.

How can I get my individual questions addressed?

You can ask questions throughout the training program on the website.

  1. Ellyn and/or teaching assistants will answer questions during the live calls and stay on to answer questions afterwards.
  2. We have weekly drop-in calls lead by the teaching assistants, where questions are welcome.
  3. The team and other trainees monitor the posts around the clock so you get your questions answered in a timely manner.

What makes this training different from a conventional online CE course?

With many online courses there is no interaction with the instructors. You can’t ask questions about a specific case you’re working with. You can’t get elaborations on especially relevant interventions. There is no way to ask, “Now what?”

Our training is different. We look forward to talking with you and answering your questions about clients you’re working with and interventions that we’ve seen successful. Therapists who have gone through our program also share they enjoy the support they receive from peers in our online community.

What makes this different from going to a workshop at a conference?

At a workshop or conference, you generally will not get your specific questions answered completely. It isn’t the environment where you can continue to ask deeper and deeper questions until they are answered.

You can’t, generally, have conversations with the presenter as they have too much material to cover and too many people who want their attention. You cannot even call the instructor after the workshop and say, “Wow, what you taught was really great, now how can I apply the interventions to my particular case?” A workshop is not designed to be comprehensive.

However, our program is designed to be comprehensive. This is what makes us so different. Our training includes all of this and much more!

Do you have a directory of therapists who have completed your program that potential clients can search?

There are 3 ways you can access therapists who are in the program:

  1. In the training site click on Members List where you can search by Name, City, State or Country (access for this is only for trainees)
  2. Go to growmyrelationship.com/featured-therapists. Therapists on this website have graduated from Level 1 and/or Level 2/Advanced Developmental Model Training.
  3. Email ruth@couplesinstitute.com for therapists in your potential client's area.

Can I download the lessons and training calls to a device so I don't have to rely on Internet or phone connection?

You may download all of the written lessons.

For the training calls, due to the private nature of the clinical cases presented, you can download the audio versions of these calls, along with the supporting slides and handouts, but you cannot download the videos.

You can play the training call videos for as long as you are in the training program.

Log into the website. Click on Monthly Training Calls, Bonus Calls, or Special Training Sessions, depending on what type of call you want to download.

Find the call you’re interested in and download the audio version.

Are there case presentation opportunities?

Yes, there are a few ways that you can get feedback on your cases.

  1. There is a section in the training site for Members Cases where you can post your case and get feedback from others in the community.
  2. If you want to present a clinical case on an upcoming clinical call, you can email ruth@couplesinstitute.com for more information.

Are case presentations required?

Absolutely not! Case presentations are not required. There are many many presentations in the training that you can learn from on various couples and situations.

I'm not sure if I can invest the time in the training right now. When will you open the program again?

We typically open the program only once or twice per year, usually January – April and September or October.

Occasionally we will open training to the waiting list. You can get on the wait list here.

In other training programs video recordings are required for case presentations? Is that true in this program?

Video recordings are not required for the case presentations.

Written transcripts (via audio recording) are the way Ellyn does the consults and the names of the people are removed from the transcript when you present a case.

How do I know if this training is right for me?

Are you a therapist who wants to…

  • Make lasting impact and transformation with your couples?
  • Feel confident in how you address difficult situations without feeling burnt out?
  • Be supported by expert trainers and like-minded peers so you’re not going it alone?
  • Access endless resources with interventions and solutions for every situation?
  • Become grounded as a leader and guide instead of subconsciously siding with one partner?
  • Enjoy your sessions instead of guessing how you’re going to uncover root issues?
  • Advance your practice to include ideal clients and a waiting list?

We have all the answers. We know that’s a bold promise.

If you'd like to see what other therapists and coaches have to say, you can do so here.

I’m not tech-savvy. Is the online part of the training program difficult to use?

Many therapists – Ellyn included – feel some anxiety about using technology. She has worked hard to be sure that our materials are very user-friendly. And our team is patient with beginners. So don’t let it scare you; jump right in!

There are two ways you can get additional tech help:
  1. Contact ruth@couplesinstitute.com and she will arrange to help you 1:1.
  2. Twice per month Tech Talks with Tauseef will be online via Zoom to help you with any issues you have around Zoom and the training site. Simply check the calendar once you are logged in to the site.

Here's what people are saying about the Tech Talks:

“Tauseef is such a gem! Never did I have to worry about getting stuck with the technical side of zoom or anything else of technical nature during our course. He also helped me thru some technical challenges after I fractured my wrist and couldn’t take notes. Tauseef is always there to save the day! “

– Lori Keegan, MS, MSW, Topeka, KS

“Tauseef, I always appreciate your kind and encouraging approach to tech help.”

– Elaine Wells, LMHP, Omaha, NE.

Is there a therapist referral program in the training program?

There are 3 ways you can access therapists who are in the program:
1. In the training site click on Members List where you can search by Name, City, State or Country (access for this is only for trainees)
2. Go to Grow My Relationship. Therapists on this website have graduated from Level 1 and/or Level 2/Advanced Developmental Model Training.
3. Email ruth@couplesinstitute.com for therapists in your potential client's area.”

Clinical

How do you address diversity, cultures, sexuality in the training program?

There are a number of clinical calls on diversity, cultures, and sexuality in the program. You can also watch what this training graduate said about it.

Do you address parenting?

Yes, the Developmental Model can be used with your work with individuals, families, and couples on many issues, including parenting. There are a number resources and calls available on the training site on this topic.

Are there case presentation opportunities?

Yes, there are a few ways that you can get feedback on your cases.

  1. There is a section in the training site for Members Cases where you can post your case and get feedback from others in the community.
  2. If you want to present a clinical case on an upcoming clinical call, you can email ruth@couplesinstitute.com for more information.

Are there lessons on sexual problems?

Yes, the training includes lessons and clinical calls on dealing with sexual issues.

Schedule

How much time is required for the training?

4-6 hours per month is generally ideal to go through the written lessons you receive every two weeks and join one live 90-minute clinical call per month (or catch the replay).

Of course you have a wealth of resources at your fingertips if you’re looking for past calls on specific topics or want some advice on a case you are struggling with.

How long is the training program and what is the format?

The training program is 12 months. The lessons are written and live calls are via Zoom. Replays are available for all calls.

What day of the week and time of the day would the training occur? What are the days and times of the live training calls?

Live 90-minute training calls usually happen on Mondays or Fridays between 9 am to 1 pm Pacific. That is in response to surveys we take regularly to find out members' preferred days and times.

We survey all members whenever new groups begin. All calls are recorded so even if you miss the live calls, you will have access to video & audio recordings.

We've also added a Thursday 9am or 1pm Pacific Drop-In call once per week that works well for people in various time zones. These calls are designed to further support your learning, Q&A, and give you the opportunity to connect with other members.

Here are a few of the upcoming live orientation and clinical calls:

  • Oct 16 (Monday), 1pm – 2pm Pacific – Orientation Call (Recommended)
  • Oct 20 (Friday), 11am – 12:30pm Pacific – Clinical Call (Recommended)
  • Oct 23  (Monday), 8am – 9:30am Pacific – Bonus Call (Optional)
  • Oct 27 (Friday), 9am – 10:30am Pacific – Special Training Session (Optional)

Optional Thursday Weekly Drop-In Calls:

  • Sept 28, 9am – 10am Pacific
  • Oct  5, 9am – 10am Pacific
  • Oct 12, 1pm-2pm -Pacific
  • Oct 19,  1pm – 2pm Pacific
  • Oct 26, 9am – 10am Pacific
I live outside of the United States. What about the time difference?

We're proud to have had trainees from over 69 countries in our training program. We try to schedule calls that accommodate the most countries as possible.
Here's more about the live calls.
Click here to get a world clock converter.

When will the next course opening be? I am not sure if I am able to sign up for this round.

We generally open training 1-2 times per year in January – April and September/October.

If you're not able to join now, you can join our waiting list here to be notified when we will open enrollment again.

When does the training program begin?

The program begins when you sign up. You will receive a welcome email, an email about your first lesson, and one with your login credentials.

When you first log in, you'll find Lesson 1 waiting for you. The other lessons will follow, one every two weeks.

How does this program run in regard to the monthly schedule; how flexible is it?

The program itself is very flexible. You receive a written lesson every two weeks for a total of 24 lessons in 12 months. You can go through them at your own pace.

The live clinical calls for the next few months are already scheduled, and there are replays of all calls. We survey new members to find out your preferred days and times.

Typically the training calls are Monday and Fridays from 9am to 1pm Pacific Time. These tend to be the most popular times.

CE hours & Certificate

Are CE's available for the training course?
Most healthcare professionals in the United States can earn 36 hours of Continuing Education credit by completing this course. Please read the course objectives, accreditation, and other information before registering.
Will I get some kind of certificate at the end of the paid training course?
Yes, you will get a certificate at the end of the training period. Here's more information.
Is there any way for me to obtain a certificate of completion for a portion of the 36 CE credits before I have completed the entire course?

Unfortunately, due to the CE rules of the licensing boards we’re not able to offer a certificate of completion for a portion of the course.

Can we earn CE’s for the free training?
Unfortunately we're not able to offer CE's for the free training, however you can go here to learn more about CE credits for the Developmental Model training program .

Contact Us

Have a question?

You can email ruth@couplesinstitute.com and she will get back to you promptly.

How do I schedule a Zoom or phone call with Ruth, our program concierge?
Click here to signup for a call with Ruth .