Initiator Inquirer

Managing Control Issues in Couples Therapy

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When therapists ask me which tool has had the biggest impact on couples around the world, the answer is always the same: the Initiator–Inquirer (I-I)

Working with Early Trauma in the Initiator-Inquirer

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When you are doing Initiator-Inquirer sessions, be sure to watch how partners function in their assigned roles. The combination of the role and each partner’s

Helplessness Underlies Many Control Struggles

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I am pleased that many readers took the time to think about the last transcript I posted. I enjoyed reading your perspectives and seeing your

Using Initiator-Inquirer to Support Growth in Couples

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One of the reasons I find the Initiator-Inquirer process especially valuable in our work with couples is that it exposes so much about where they

Utilize the Initiator-Inquirer Process in Couples Therapy

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Stop Angry, Hostile Fighting and Immediately Structure More Effective Interaction Are you interested in a way to get out of the middle of a couple’s

Developmental Change, Focus on the Initiator, Part 3

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Therapist Errors: Not Recognizing Protective Passivity This blog post continues to focus on the initiator. Last month we looked at recognizing a “non-Initiation.” Remember we

Developmental Change, Focus on the Initiator, Part 2

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Recognizing When Your Client Defines a Clear Issue with Related Feelings Today’s blog post is the second in which we focus on the Initiator for

Developmental Change: Focus on the Initiator with Volatile Couples

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I thought I’d write a few short blog posts that focus on the Initiator in the Initiator-Inquirer Process. Attaining successful initiation in the early stages