self-discipline

What’s better than fixing your marriage?

What if a good marriage was not about focusing on fixing problems? What if a good marriage was not learning a new set of skills or tools? The most common requests couples who are starting therapy have is for communication skills and tools for a better relationship. This is an understandable but misguided request. What if couples were taught skills and tools, with penetrating insights on how to improve, but there was no underlying dedication to growth? What if a great marriage is about character? The sum of moral strength, fortitude, self-discipline, integrity, curiosity and caring. Tools are about using your mind.… Read more...

Krispy Kreme and Your Relationship

Recently after a delicious dinner at a favorite restaurant, I was walking back to the car with our nineteen year old daughter Molly, when I spotted a Krispy Kreme donut shop. Like a dog headed for a deserted steak on the kitchen counter, I headed for the glazed goodies with Molly in tow. But like a dog on a short leash, I was yanked back with a surprisingly stern command, “Don't do it, Dad – you don't need those things!” I tried to convince Molly that one would be OK. When that failed, I tried bargaining and suggested we split one. But this was like selling steak to a vegetarian. Getting desperate, I said if I could just go in the door and take a whiff, I could be happy.… Read more...
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