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How to Get the Most From Your Couples Therapy

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Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or

How to Get the Most from Our Work Together

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Couples are often uncertain what to expect from the process of couples therapy. They are not sure of what to expect of the therapist or even if the therapist has any expectations of them.

I have found most couples approach therapy with the notion that each person will describe their distress and somehow the therapist will assist them to create a happier, more functional, relationship. They expect to learn some new or better skills. However, most people hope their partner will do most of the learning in problem areas.
After 30 years of clinical experience and specializing in working with thousands of couples, I have arrived at some guidelines that can make our work more effective.… Read more…

Daily Double Practice Guide – Up the Ante

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Here’s something you can do for your relationship today. It’s called The Daily Double 30-Day Challenge. Twice a day – for 30 consecutive days –

Couples As a Team: Questions to Discuss with Your Partner

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Build your foundation today so you can thrive tomorrow. These questions pull for your values, interests, challenges and perhaps priorities… all things to explore with

Couples As a Team: The Daily Double

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Here’s something you can do for your relationship today. It’s called The Daily Double. You earn two points today by doing two positive things on

Has your spouse cheated on you?

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A starting point for overcoming the pain of infidelity. Holy #@%!, I don’t need to tell you about the anguish you’re going through if you’ve

Ask Ellyn: 8 questions, 8 answers, 8 days!

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You have probably had a couple who has stalled out. There is progress, then regression. This happens for many reasons: change requires time and developmental