Pete Pearson

My Experiment with Pain – And How it Applies to Your Relationship

I had an amazing discovery as I tried anxiously to relax – while my dental hygienist cleaned my teeth. We were discussing the use of nitrous oxide (“laughing gas”) as an alternative to the topical anesthetic gel she usually puts on my oversensitive gums. Interestingly, she explained that unlike the topical anesthetic, nitrous oxide does nothing to affect the nerve endings in the gums. It simply relaxes you and you don't feel any discomfort. Incredulous, I asked other medical people if this was accurate. The consensus was that indeed, there was nothing about nitrous oxide that would anesthetize the gums, and the benefit came entirely through being relaxed.… Read more...

7 Steps to Help Your Partner Want to Change

Large leather sofa with a bunch of different thingsEveryone has something they'd like to change in their partner. Unfortunately too many partners believe, “If my partner loves me they should want to change.” Frequently this creates quite a power struggle. Here is a 7-step process to create a change in your partner. The key to the success of this process is that it makes your partner want to change instead of feeling coerced. Why? Because your gain will not feel like their loss. Here's what you do. 1. Make a list. List the top three behaviors your partner does that annoy you. For example, leaves messes around house; pouts; doesn't do their share of household tasks, etc.… Read more...

Reliability and Trust

Who can you trust? It was 2:30 on a Tuesday afternoon. Ellyn was getting ready to go to a conference where we were making a presentation the next day. She asked me to pack the chart stand in the car and I agreed. The next morning on the way in to the office, I realized I forgot to pack the chart stand and called her about my mistake and asked if she would pack it. She said ok, and that was the end of it. That's not always the way it was–not by a long shot. A few years ago, that incident would have triggered an intense discussion between us. The reason was clear-cut: I wasn't very reliable. Being unreliable is bad for any relationship.… Read more...
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