Podcast

The Relationship School Podcast Interview with Pete Pearson

Thanks for listening to my interview on The Relationship School podcast, where Jayson and I discussed so many issues to help partners have better relationships. A major theme was creating a stronger team as a couple. Because it takes two strong individuals to create a strong team, Jayson volunteered to let me walk him through an exercise. He identified something his wife did that triggered him in ways he did not want to experience. After a handful of minutes, he felt relaxed and energized instead of tense and constricted. We then talked about how he and his wife could use this tool to work together and be a stronger team.… Read more... “The Relationship School Podcast Interview with Pete Pearson”

The Therapist Couch Podcast Interview with Ellyn Bader

The Couples InstituteThanks for listening to my interview on the Therapist Couch Podcast. I hope you found the interview helpful. Please feel free to share the podcast and resources below. If you'd like more relationship or couples therapy training information, feel free to signup here. Click here to download Six Types of Confrontation in Couples Therapy I mentioned in the podcast. You might also be interested in the following resources: Rethinking First Sessions In this 60-minute downloadable audio Dr. Peter Pearson shared his experimentation and success with Rethinking First Sessions. It’s important to ask the right questions at the very start, or the first session is reduced to finger-pointing and blame.… Read more... “The Therapist Couch Podcast Interview with Ellyn Bader”

Pete’s Interview – Stages of Relationships – Triggers

Thanks for your interest in my recent interview on NPR. I hope you get some valuable insights for your relationship regarding: The stages of a relationship or marriage Lies we tell our partners Triggers we have that cause challenges in our relationships You won't want to miss my impromptu session with a stranger where I walked a listener through a long time trigger that he had interacting with his partner. In less than ten minutes, he was able to begin feeling differently and break a pattern he has had for years (Listener Question 2 at about 36 minutes in). Your browser does not support the audio element. Podcast Highlights: 01:05 – Honeymoon Stage and Innocent Lies in the Beginning 05:40 – Avoiding the Truth 10:00 – Start to Work as a TEAM 10:45 – Partners on a Pedestal at the Beginning 11:30 – Tell Me No Lies 11:45 – Second Stage – Power Struggles 15:50 – Marriage is the only Non-Hierarchical Relationship there is.… Read more... “Pete’s Interview – Stages of Relationships – Triggers”

The Relationship School Podcast Interview with Ellyn Bader

The Couples InstituteThanks for listening to my interview on The Relationship School podcast where Jayson and I discussed so many issues to help partners have better relationships. Jayson and I even did a mini-roleplay on a topic I feel strongly about. It’s the challenge of how to ask for what you desire or need. I think I really got Jayson's attention when I said asking for what you need can create big relationship problems! How something is said can be a challenge for couples and for couples therapists. I hope you found the interview helpful. Please feel free to share the podcast and resources below. Click here to download the 3 Types of Decisions discussed on the podcast.… Read more... “The Relationship School Podcast Interview with Ellyn Bader”

The Relationship Alive Podcast Interview with Peter Pearson and Ellyn Bader

Thanks for listening to our interview with Neil Sattin on his Relationship Alive! Podcast. We hope you found the interview helpful. Please feel free to share the podcast and resources below. If you'd like more relationship or couples therapy training information, feel free to signup here. For Couples and Therapists: Click here for Super Negotiation for Couples that Pete mentioned on the podcast. Good negotiation is much more complex than having each person say what they want and then both compromise on something they hold important for the sake of peace. For Therapists: In Quest of the Mythical Mate Kit Develop your therapy skills with this comprehensive kit for working with couples.… Read more... “The Relationship Alive Podcast Interview with Peter Pearson and Ellyn Bader”

For Listeners of “The How of Business” More on “The How of Business”

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Perry Marshall’s Mastermind Group with Ellyn Bader & Peter Pearson

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Why We Lie, and How to Get Back to the Truth

We’re going to talk about lies. Why do we lie – ever? And while it’s easy to perhaps scapegoat people who aren’t telling the whole truth – as with anything in relationship – it takes TWO to tango – so how does the person who’s being lied TO help create the dynamic? Most importantly – how do you bring your relationship back into balance, so that you can experience the power created by telling the truth and being in integrity. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson are two of the world’s leading experts on couples therapy and the topic of honesty in relationship, and their groundbreaking book – Tell me No Lies – explores exactly these questions about how to undo the damage caused by all lies – big and small – in relationships.… Read more... “Why We Lie, and How to Get Back to the Truth”

Couples Resources

This page, organized by the type of program, summarizes the various couples resources that are offered by The Couples Institute. These are in addition to couples therapy, which is described here. Couples Workshops Sign up to join Michelle Wangler Joy, M.A., MFT, for the next Couples Communication Workshop to learn skills to overcome stubborn relationship challenges. Invite one of our therapists to speak to your couples, parents, or family-focused community group by contacting our office here. E-Book Initiating Calm Discussions In this e-book by Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D., you will discover three different perspectives for every discussion.… Read more... “Couples Resources”
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