You Might Have Experienced the Following Scenario:
You’re in a session and the husband is frustrated. He is trying to understand his wife’s perspective, but he can’t empathize with it because he doesn’t identify with her portrait of him during the argument.
The wife complains about not being listened to, and feels that her husband criticizes her and tells her how to act.
You ask the husband how he thinks he is showing up: argumentative and critical, or curious and understanding.
Of course he thinks he’s the latter. He felt he was explaining to her why he was having difficulty being present; she heard it as putting the responsibility for the problem on her.
When you point out his edginess, he gets frustrated because his perception of the argument is so different from hers.
Now he feels unfairly blamed. And he’s worried because their views of reality are so different. He doesn’t feel confident that he can respond more effectively in the future.
Where do you turn to get support when you have frustrated clients or you feel blamed for lack of progress?
What if you could get help with all your toughest sessions?
Why Am I Offering This Program?
Over the past year I’ve heard a recurring request from many therapists after they completed the Developmental Model training program. They don’t want to be left completely on their own.
They want to keep polishing their skills, and they’ve asked for a way to stay connected to the learning and support without the added time commitment of joining the advanced training program.
I’ve received comments like this:
“I appreciate the solid foundation and new confidence I have since I began using the Developmental Model with my couples. I’d love to stay connected to the community and still have ongoing access to my training materials.”
Others said they are missing the recorded archive of training calls and the opportunity to listen to the Bonus Calls.
You invested a year learning the Developmental Model and I’d like to continue to support your work.
“This has been the most useful professional course I have taken in a lifetime. The material is well-written and readable. It has been real on-the-job training as I could read, see, hear, ask, discuss and practice when it fit my schedule."
I’m pleased to offer this Developmental Model Community Membership as a solution.
“I was frustrated to see how attachment and differentiation models were often pitted against each other. Then I found this, and I knew I wanted to commit to being trained in The Developmental Model. I feel refueled as I continue to engage in the lessons, the blogs, the calls and my peer group."
The quality of early life experiences profoundly affects couples' relationships. You’ll become skilled at assessing each partner’s primary attachment pattern and learn immediate applications to help couples develop secure attachment.
Understanding this theory will enable you to help couples manage their conflicts and differences with a foundation that will last them a lifetime. You will support the evolution of each partner, as well as the growth of the relationship.
One of the biggest breakthroughs in our profession is our recent knowledge that the mind can change the architecture of the brain. We teach cutting edge techniques and approaches to deal with early life trauma that is stored in the emotional brain and contributes to the pain couples inflict on each other. Changing their interpersonal process becomes much easier when you understand some neuroscience.
“I feel I now have a compass. I know where I want to go and feel more prepared to face the obstacles that lay ahead whatever they may be. The Developmental Model is great, and Ellyn is a great mentor. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge and expertise”
I’m Excited to Get Started
If you want to excel at working with couples, this program is your practical roadmap to crafting lasting interventions with:
- The Hostile-Angry Couple
- The Conflict Avoidant Couple
- The Passive Aggressive Partner
- The Narcissistic Partner
- The Self-Absorbed Partner
- The Silently Disengaged Partner
- The Addicted Partner
- Lies, Betrayal, Affairs, and Infidelity
This training can mean more confidence working with couples, more referrals, and more satisfied clients.
"My only regret is that I had not signed on sooner. I look back on a few couples I have seen over the years and wonder how different the outcome might have been if I'd known then what I know now.”
If you'd like to excel in your work with couples, I'd like to work with you
The community is waiting for you. When you struggle in this work that is so important, you don’t have to be alone. You can depend on the help and support of this strong community around you.
What excites me most is helping therapists like you grow inside and out. I'm committed to your potential. Are you?
If you’re ready to collaborate with me join now.
Looking forward to connecting with you again,
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