intra-psychic work

Losing Momentum: With Passive-Aggressive Partners and their Spouses

Momentum-imageMany therapists dread working with couples where one partner is extremely passive or passive-aggressive. Passive-aggressive partners create a lot of confusion. Commitments are regularly broken, and criticism and passivity dominate the couple’s interactions. Their spouse is usually enormously frustrated and angry. Any attempts by the couple to change the pattern fail, and increasingly the interpersonal dynamics between these partners zap the life right out of the relationship – until the life force is gone. In fact, once a couple has interacted like this for years, they aren’t very likely to unravel the pattern themselves.… Read more...