Being totally honest with your partner isn’t always easy.
It takes trust and vulnerability from both partners.
Without those fundamental building blocks, it's hard to fully trust another person, especially in a romantic relationship.
In fact, lack of trust sets in motion a downward spiral and the little white lies take hold: people pleasing, hiding simple thoughts or ideas, then hiding more important ones.
Over time, a pattern develops and one or maybe both partners drift apart, building separate lives – even if they’re still together under one roof.
And then the inevitable happens – you land in a therapist's office trying to sort out what went wrong.
Every marriage goes through 4 stages...
The Honeymoon
Emerging
Differences
Freedom
Together as Two
Even little white lies in relationships can lead to serious trouble at each stage.
Warning signs that a couple hasn’t mastered
honesty and vulnerability...
The Dark Side
of the Honeymoon
The Stalemate
Freedom Unhinged
Read before and during any relationship that you want to last.
Great book that goes into the phases of relationships. If partners are willing to work with each phase, the relationship can deepen. The honeymoon phase will not last forever, and Dr. Ellyn Bader guides couples through what is occurring (or what to expect) and how to address it. We easily fall into ‘little lies' to maintain harmony or avoid tough discussions. The reality is that such behavior creates distance and can lead to more difficulties, in my experience. She clearly spells this out. And offers acceptance of differences as…
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Get ready for your mind to be blown and get ready to cry, laugh, smile and reflect.
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Great book. I read it for my couple's therapy ...
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Helped us plenty.
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Spectacular reconceptualization of lying in relationships. Every mental health rofessional who treats couples needs this book.
Dr. Dr. Ellyn Bader provides a wonderful and insightful look at the different ways that lies affect all relationships, with a particular focus on couples. Many different types of lies and reasons for lying allow the reader to conceptualize that there are usually two sides to this behavior and reasons behind each lie that is told. A brilliant book!
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Learn How To Overcome the Barriers to Honesty for a Deeply Rewarding Marriage.