How can you help a betrayed partner get past unrelenting anger after infidelity is revealed?

It has to do with facilitating effective differentiation with your couples in the middle stage of repairing infidelity.

To do this successfully will require each partner developing an increasing capacity to tolerate ambiguity and manage anxiety-provoking discussions.

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Watch the video below to learn the crucial questions and interventions to use in this middle stage of repair work.

After watching this video, if you’d like to dive deeper into how much is possible to do in first sessions after infidelity, you might be interested in a recorded training, Managing the Crisis of Infidelity: How to Lead Your Clients from Raw Pain to Constructive Action.

In this special 90-minute recorded training session with Dr. Ellyn Bader, you’ll get a very unique chance to watch Ellyn and her husband, Dr. Peter Pearson work with an infidelity case. Then, she’ll stop the tape and explain what she did and why she did it.

You will benefit whether you’re new to couples work or have been working with couples for years, since there are very few opportunities to see what goes on in the mind of expert clinicians as they work with couples.

Learning the rationale behind interventions makes it more likely you’ll integrate them into what you do in the future without getting lost, or hoping you execute the right thing at the right time.

  • No more wondering where to start.
  • No more hoping you say or do the right thing when deception is revealed.
  • No more getting exhausted by the intensity of the couples’ emotions.
  • No more gritting your teeth and trying to stay objective as details unfold.