Couples Resources

This page, organized by the type of program, summarizes the various couples resources that are offered by The Couples Institute. These are in addition to couples therapy, which is described here.

Couples Workshops

Sign up to join Michelle Wangler Joy, M.A., MFT, for a one-day workshop to learn communication skills to overcome stubborn relationship challenges.

Invite one of our therapists to speak to your couples, parents, or family-focused community group by contacting our office here.


Initiating Calm Discussions

In this e-book by Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D., you will discover three different perspectives for every discussion. You’ll also learn two specific roles you and your partner can use to improve challenging discussions.  And you’ll get a six-step exercise that prepares you to bring up even the most sensitive topic. Tell me more…


Tell Me No Lies

This book by Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D. presents insightful case examples of couples who illustrate typical behavior patterns. You will follow along as two couples—John and Sarah, and Paul and Mary—work through issues to build stronger marriages. Becoming conscious of the lies within your marriage through an understanding of when, how and why you lie, will help you make your marriage stronger. Tell me more…

Audio Programs

Beyond I-Messages

In this downloadable one hour session, Pete and Ellyn teach you an innovative approach to discussing challenging topics. Listen or read to learn a unique structure to guide you through your toughest topics. Then you and your partner can start discussing difficulties without triggering defensive reflexes in each other. Learn more.

My Passive Aggressive Partner is Driving Me Nuts!

Dr. Peter Pearson has developed an audio workshop, of over 100 minutes, that can shows you how to recognize core passive aggressive characteristics, how to understand the origins of this behavior, and how to help you and your partner set positive goals. You’ll hear suggestions for what you can do to handle this frustrating dynamic. You’ll learn how to make significant changes that can improve your life together. Learn more.

Soothing Moments: Rapid Relationship Repair

Pete and Ellyn’s teleseminar session called “Rapid Relationship Repair,” is available as a downloadable audio file and transcript. Just by listening or reading, you will learn what to say and do to alleviate pain more rapidly, how to move past the pain, and how to enjoy more closeness with your partner. Learn more.


“Curiosity and Courage” on Together Magazine

“Why We Lie and How to Get Back to the Truth” on Relationship Alive

Other recommendations

Intimacy After Infidelity

Marriage Rules

Sexual Intelligence

Click here to see a list of other websites with information for couples.

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