Beyond I Messages: Safe and Sane Couples Communication
(Audio MP3 & Transcript)
How many times have you and your partner struggled to discuss a problem without pointing fingers or getting agitated?
And even if your partner says they are not blaming – do you feel blamed anyway?
Perhaps you have tried the classic “I Messages” but found that this old approach unwittingly created heated discussions. “I Messages” sometimes make you feel responsible for your partner’s reactions. And this guarantees the start of a very bad discussion. Before you know it, you are digging yourself out of a hole you didn’t even mean to create.
There Is A Way Out.
Listen to Ellyn and Peter's one-hour session to learn an innovative approach to discussing challenging topics.
Conversations that are conflictual occur because each person defaults into a self protective mode. All ineffective communication stems from the natural desire to get relief from the pain or threat each person feels. When you are calmer, when you can avoid pain or feeling threatened, topics can be discussed more easily.
Using a unique structure to guide you through your toughest topics, you can start discussing difficulties without triggering defensive reflexes in each other.
- You’ll learn individual steps for initiating difficult discussions.
- You will also hear a live demonstration of a couple practicing this process.
- And we’re teaching things that can help you even if your partner chooses not to listen!
The downloadable audio costs just $40.00. As a bonus, you will also get a transcript of the session so you can conveniently skim and review the material after you listen to it.
Moderated by Dr. Ellyn Bader
Co-founder and director of The Couples Institute, author, therapist, and trainer who is passionate about couples therapy and devoted to her trainees.