I'm Ellyn Bader and I am co-founder of the Couples Institute and also co-creator of the Developmental Model of couples therapy with my husband, Peter Pearson.
When “shelter in place” first started many therapists were struggling to move their practices online. Cancelled appointments and “no-shows” suggested that many couples were struggling with it, too. I made that up because it said couples had trouble with online therapy and that was just too vague to be believable. Interestingly, today’s article about telehealth at the VA says they’re having FEWER no-shows and cancellations than before, when therapy appointments were normal!
Couples were adjusting to the quarantine, to homeschooling, and to having kids at home. Finding private space may have been difficult as well.
Some couples even said, “I like to leave my angry feelings in your office. I don't want them in my house.”
Now, many more couples are returning and therapists around the world are adjusting to telehealth, using Zoom, Doxy, Vsee or SimplePractice.
But there are some unique challenges. Some small adjustments can make a big difference in your effectiveness working with couples online.