You might have experienced the following scenario:
Your intuition guides you to make thoughtful, steady interventions. Everything looks great. Then unexpectedly, something you say makes the whole session fall apart. They end up blaming, you end up flooded. And you wonder what went wrong, or how you could prevent it from happening again.
Or maybe you feel like you’re doing a great job being empathic with a couple. You’re right there with them in their pain. You think they feel really understood. It seems like things are going well. And suddenly they call you up to say “we’re not going to come because we don’t feel like we’re getting anywhere.”
Without thoughtful mentoring and training, you could go your whole career wondering when things will fall apart.
And your work in the world is too important to let intuition alone guide you.
I’ve seen almost every well-intentioned therapist make mistakes that undo all their careful work.
It’s more common than you think, and it’s affecting marriages all over the world. It’s a big reason the divorce rate is so high, and climbs higher every day.
But I believe I can help you develop a confident understanding of what to do, when to do it, and why you’re doing it, so that you can work with the types of couples who used to make you shudder.
I know this is a tall order.
Here’s why I believe I can make such a promise.
Who am I and why am I offering this training program?
I’m Dr. Ellyn Bader. I’m on a mission to stop unnecessary and premature divorces that wreck couples and families.
When I planned this online training program, I really wanted to improve upon conference workshops and webinars that struck me as “hit and run” trainings. These types of programs leave participants with the message, “Ok, everybody, here’s the theory. Now, you’re on your own. Good luck.”
Much of what you learn is wasted because you can’t get ongoing learning from the trainer. I hunger for ongoing learning and support from presenters I really love.
I don’t think I am alone in this feeling.
This was my driving force behind starting an ongoing couples therapy training program. I discovered that, of all the professional activities I have been involved in over 35 years, what I valued most was seeing the growth in couples therapists who cared about making a real difference.
So I created a program to train exceptional couples therapists who want to make a real difference.
“This has been the most useful professional course I have taken in a lifetime. The material is well-written and readable. It has been real on-the-job training as I could read, see, hear, ask, discuss and practice when it fit my schedule."
Ongoing Discussions: After each lesson, I participate along with members in a secure membership area to discuss how to approach the thorny challenges presented in that lesson. You’ll be contributing to and learning from others as well as me. We don’t shy away from difficult issues like:
- How to Integrate Individual Sessions Into Your Couples Work
- How to Manage Confidentiality
- How to Integrate Couples Therapy When One Partner Is in Early Recovery
- How to Handle Sexual Desire Discrepancy
- How to Handle Threats of Violence or Divorce
Conference Calls: Every month we meet as a group on the phone. I teach live and focus on clinical cases to enhance your perspective on challenging situations. These calls give you an opportunity to ask me your questions about new theories and interventions.
Audio Recordings: Each conference call is recorded and saved for you in a downloadable format.
Client Handouts: You’ll also receive exercises and handouts to use with your clients such as:
- Uncovering Vulnerability and Shifting Negative Patterns
- Couples Questionnaire for Diagnosing Each Partner’s Stage of Development
- Setting Limits on Conflict
- Fostering Empathy
- Self-Assessment After a Fight
“I was frustrated to see how attachment and differentiation models were often pitted against each other. Then I found this, and I knew I wanted to commit to being trained in The Developmental Model. I feel refueled as I continue to engage in the lessons, the blogs, the calls and my peer group."
The quality of early life experiences profoundly affects couples' relationships. You’ll become skilled at assessing each partner’s primary attachment pattern and learn immediate applications to help couples develop secure attachment.
Understanding this theory will enable you to help couples manage their conflicts and differences with a foundation that will last them a lifetime. You will support the evolution of each partner, as well as the growth of the relationship.
One of the biggest breakthroughs in our profession is our recent knowledge that the mind can change the architecture of the brain. We teach cutting edge techniques and approaches to deal with early life trauma that is stored in the emotional brain and contributes to the pain couples inflict on each other. Changing their interpersonal process becomes much easier when you understand some neuroscience.
“I feel I now have a compass. I know where I want to go and feel more prepared to face the obstacles that lay ahead whatever they may be. The Developmental Model is great, and Ellyn is a great mentor. Thanks for sharing all your knowledge and expertise”
If you want to excel at working with couples, this program is your practical road map to crafting lasting interventions with:
- The Hostile-Angry Couple
- The Conflict Avoidant Couple
- The Passive Aggressive Partner
- The Narcissistic Partner
- The Self-Absorbed Partner
- The Silently Disengaged Partner
- The Addicted Partner
- Lies, Betrayal, Affairs, and Infidelity
This training can mean more confidence working with couples, more referrals, and more satisfied clients.
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