What If You Had the Roadmap to
Create Lasting Change with Clients?
The Developmental ModelTM Gives you x-ray vision into relationship challenges so you can address the real issues instead of the symptoms.
Created by industry innovators, The Developmental ModelTM gives you a roadmap for incisive change. And this training includes a community to support your work as a couples therapist.
Created by industry leaders, The Developmental ModelTM harnesses neuroscience, differentiation, and attachment theory to give you a roadmap for lasting relationship transformation.
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Too many training courses focus on behavioral skills and quick fixes rather than addressing the deeper wounds that keep clients stuck.
These other approaches might provide temporary relief, but they often fall short when it comes to real, sustained transformation. When clients get stuck, it’s often because they lack certain skills or capacities – not because they are fundamentally flawed.
We combine Attachment Theory, Neuroscience, and Differentiation to give you the solution to almost every relationship challenge.
Attachment Theory
You’ll become skilled at assessing each partner’s primary attachment pattern and learn immediate applications to help couples develop secure attachment.
Differentiation Theory
You will support the evolution of each partner, as well as the growth of the relationship. This makes couples strong enough to manage differences and conflict over their lifetime.
Neuroscience
We teach cutting edge techniques to deal with early life trauma that is stored in the emotional brain and contributes to the pain couples inflict on each other. We make it easy to share simple neuroscience concepts – clients are often grateful because this education gives them hope!
When integrated, those 3 pillars provide an unprecedented foundation so you can:
Help couples understand the underlying cause of relationship distress.
Apply practical techniques to get healing results.
Motivate unmotivated partners to take action.
Create progress so your couples don’t get discouraged and give up.
Martha Kauppi, LMFT, ACST Madison, WI
Challenging Couples, Community, Clinical Improvement
Tom Bruett, MS, LMFT Denver, CO
Diversity, Community, Clinical Improvement
Tammy Van Hinte, MA, RCC Victoria BC
Community, Personal, New Therapist, Full Practice
Janae Munday, LCSW Phoenix, AZ
Individuals, Tools/Framework, Clinical Improvement
What can The Developmental ModelTM do for Individual Therapists?
Do you want mind-blowing transformation in less than a year, with “aha” moments starting immediately?
In 12 weeks or less you will have a completely different mindset when facing tough situations.
In 12 months, you’ll be rock steady confident because you’ll have the tools to assess, intervene, and motivate – solutions you can’t observe in regular CE courses.
Video, Audio, or Written Delivery, Introvert or Extrovert
We’ve Got Your Learning Style Covered!
Live Trainings
We’ve Got Your Learning Style Covered!
Q&A call with Trainers
Weekly Guided Practice Sessions
Bonus Calls with Special Guests like, Esther Perel, Diane Poole Heller, Stan Tatkin
Self-Study Learnings
Replays of every
clinical session
Video demonstrations and deep dives of specific techniques
Real client session videos
Transcripts, Handouts, and
Client Worksheets
24 strategically sequenced written lessons
Written summaries and transcripts of clinical sessions
30+ handouts you can use or give to your clients
Homework for clients to support your work
Case
consultations
Message boards
Referral Network
Our students say
“This training comes with a Search Tool Better Than Google!”
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Solyrais takes the complexities of a couple and gives you a clear clinical summary and roadmap.
- A concise orientation to the couple’s unique dynamics
- Each partner’s developmental stage, stuck points, and treatment priorities
- Survival strategies at play (so you’re not guessing what drives their defenses)
- A vision of what’s possible for the couple, and the bridge to get there
Claim Your $158 bonuses by Sunday, October 5
Therapy in Action: A Mini-Course Like No Other
($550 value)
This 4-hour mini-course takes you through real therapy over time, from the initial meeting to diagnosis, interpersonal work, and individual intrapsychic work.
You’ll witness:
- Getting Started: How to set the foundation from the very first session.
- The Paper Exercise: A powerful diagnostic tool that reveals key dynamics.
- Initiator Inquirer Process: A technique that fosters deep understanding and empathy.
- 2 Chair Work: A transformative approach to resolving inner conflicts.
Not only will you watch therapy unfold over time, you’ll also see commentary: my husband Pete and I pause the video to explain exactly why we made certain choices.
$150 Gift CARD
$150 to spend in our online store any time throughout the length of your first year membership!
Special Session: Techniques for Managing Emotional Dysregulation led by Kelly Scharver, LPC ($79 Value)
24 PDF Handout Packet: Tools for Every Stage
($79 Value)
These tried-and-true resources have been used by therapists in 75 countries for over a decade. These handouts cover everything from ineffective partner behaviors to effective goal setting, offering you a toolkit to address the most common challenges at different stages of therapy.
Bridge the Gap Between Learning and Doing:
Practice with Experts!
You’re not just learning – you’re doing.
You’re not just watching – you’re participating.
And you’re not just hoping for results – you’re seeing them, session after session.
Upcoming practice sessions include:
Empathic Embellishments and Connecting
with Each Partner
Three steps to recharge your practice
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Explore the industry-inspiring Developmental Model over 3,000 therapists have relied on in 75 countries
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Get immediate access to this high-touch,
comprehensive program when you join!
The Hostile-Angry Couple
The Conflict Avoidant Couple
The Passive Aggressive Partner
The Narcissistic Partner
The Self-Absorbed Partner
The Silently Disengaged Partner
The Addicted Partner
Lies, Betrayal, Affairs, and Infidelity
The 24 lessons are delivered in a way that creates a solid foundation and builds your skills brick by brick.
- Addiction: Working with Clients in Denial or Early Recovery
- Managing Betrayal in the Aftermath of Infidelity
- Slowing Down and Increasing Accountability with Fighting Couples
- Goal-Setting for a Powerful Start
- Assessment from an Attachment Theory Perspective
- Assessment Tools to Diagnose the Couple’s Developmental Stage
- Accessing the Emotional Brain for Rapid Change and Trauma Healing
- Recognizing the Three Types of Motivation
- Developing Empathy in Self-Absorbed or Narcissistic Partners
- Resolving Intrapsychic Impasses
- And much more!
The Members Area is also where you’ll be part of a thriving community with rich, interactive discussions. You have the opportunity to ask questions, address stuck places, and discuss how to move therapy forward. We don’t shy away from difficult issues like:
Integrating individual sessions into your couples work
Managing confidentiality between partners
When one partner is in early recovery
Sexual Desire Discrepancy
Threats of violence or divorce
How to help couples repair and reconnect after infidelity
The 24 lessons are delivered in a way that creates a solid foundation and builds your skills brick by brick.
Here’s what our students have to say about the culture of The Developmental ModelTM program…
Who’s using The Developmental ModelTM? The best of the best, and those who aspire to join them.
Creator of DARe - Dynamic Attachment Repatterning experience
Sounds great, but what’s the data on The Developmental ModelTM?
96% say it gave them a roadmap for couples work
95% say it also helps them with individual clients
95% say it’s easy to integrate with what they already know
Over 3,000 therapists in 75 countries have adopted The Developmental ModelTM
Developmental Model Trainees in 75 Countries Worldwide
About Ellyn
This Program is a Magnum Opus Created by one of the Leading Founders of Couples Therapy, Dr. Ellyn Bader
Since 2006, Ellyn has led innovative couples therapy training programs. Professionals from around the world connect with her online for live training sessions and forums to study couples therapy. Therapists from 75 countries have taken her online training course.
Ellyn has co-authored two books. The first one, In Quest of the Mythical Mate, was awarded the Clark Vincent Award by the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy and has been reprinted more than 20 times. She has been featured on over 70 radio and television programs including The Today Show and CBS Early Morning News, and she has been quoted in The New York Times, The Oprah Magazine, Cosmopolitan and many more.
The Developmental Model is the Ultimate Relationship Training
for Creating Change.
Are you ready to try it risk-free and transform your practice?
Author of Mating in Captivity and The State of Affairs
How do I know The Developmental ModelTM is right for me?
- Make lasting impact and transformation with your couples?
- Feel confident in how you address difficult situations without feeling burnt out?
- Be supported by expert trainers and like-minded peers so you’re not going it alone?
- Access endless resources with interventions and solutions for every situation?
- Become grounded as a leader and guide instead of subconsciously siding with one partner?
- Enjoy your sessions instead of guessing how you’re going to uncover root issues?
- Advance your practice to include ideal clients and a waiting list?
Glen Denlinger, LCSW, BCD President & Clinical Director of Well Marriage Center. Fairfax, VA
New Therapists, Experienced Therapists, Training, Associates, Confidence
Alexa Elkington, MFT Las Vegas, NV
Remote Work, Complicated Cases, Clinical Improvement
See what our students and advanced therapists have to say…
FAQs about The Developmental ModelTM Training Program
Most licenses receive 36 CE hours. Click here to read the course objectives, accreditation, and other information before registering.
Because the Developmental Model focuses on relationship challenges and enables individuals to face their own contributions to relationship stress, it provides clarity and direction for individual therapy sessions as well. Some of our students have said the Model helps them assume the leadership role as a therapist, gives individuals tools to navigate their couple and family relationships, and reduces their own stress too. While it’s taught with couples in mind, we’ve received insurmountable evidence and feedback that it’s great for individual therapy, too.
The program starts about 4 minutes after you enroll! Once you join, you can immediately log into the site and find answers to your questions. Our students say our search tool is better than Google, so you can find answers to implement in your own practice right off the bat. That being said, we close on October 5 so don’t wait too long to join – especially at the current price!
The Developmental Model program is the most personalized and in-depth training available. With live, interactive calls with advanced trainers, bonus calls, special guest calls, messaging forums with your peers, and our vast library of updated resources, you have everything at your fingertips. Our students say this training comes with “a Search Tool Better Than Google” because of the specific and vast resources available instantly. You can type your question or keyword into the search box and pull up case studies, consultations, lessons, discussions, and solutions for anything you need help with in seconds. And with ongoing live support, you’re never left to figure things out on your own.
Our lessons are tailored to give you clear solutions to the biggest problems your couples face. This includes challenges like infidelity, passive aggressive or narcissistic partners, conflict avoidance, addiction and substance abuse, hostile fighting couples – truly anything you can think of. Each lesson solves the problems of “What do I say when…?” and gives you the best ways to structure a treatment program from start to finish. Often therapists can get lost or stuck navigating these issues and default to solving the wrong, smaller problems, leading to burnout or playing whack-a-mole with the problem of the week. With our approach, you can build motivation with your couples so they work harder than you do and you can even relax in your practice because you’re always prepared.
To get the most out of your investment, we recommend spending 5-6 hours per month, whether it’s attending live calls, posting your case and getting feedback, reading the lessons, or diving deeper into a topic found in the bonus calls or special training calls. There’s unlimited value for you to use however you choose!
This is not a program you navigate alone. No matter where you live, you are included and supported. We tailor our live calls to accommodate most time zones and every call is available with a replay. Because we serve therapists all over the world, this program works wherever you practice. With access to messaging forums, live interactive calls, replays, reading material, and more, you will see how personal this program really is.
The investment is just $189/month or $1,997 annually, a savings of $271. Many members tell us they recoup that easily.
For just about one additional couples session a month can more than cover your monthly investment. Or, by using what you learn to help couples stay longer in therapy, you’ll increase your income while doing deeper, more satisfying work.
The only criteria to enroll is a desire to work with couples or if you work with individuals with relationship issues. This program is appropriate and beneficial for licensed therapists, coaches, clergy, mediators, and interns.
Iron Clad Guarantee:
Our Iron Clad Guarantee promises 100% satisfaction or your money back. If you’re enrolling between September 8 & October 5, 2025, you have until October 12, 2025 to receive a full refund.
- Have a clear, non-pathological way to describe to your couples why they are stuck
- Feel more confident in your ability to conduct first sessions
- Have diagnostic and assessment tools ready to use
- Attend your first Monthly Training Call Drop-in Call, and/or Practice Session
- Find value in the Development Model of Couples Therapy
- Become comfortable knowing how to take charge in your sessions
- See clients respond better, make more progress, return with enthusiasm
- Imagine getting referrals for more couples