This past week I demonstrated how to use the Developmental Model to tackle tough impasses you will likely encounter. I hope you found my demonstrations helpful whether you’re just getting started or are an experienced couples therapist.
Thanks for your interest in this powerful and transformative work.
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What Do You Do When Your Clients Aren’t Telling You What You Need to Know?
There’s something I like to call “The Presenting Problem Paradox.” Therapists everywhere face this challenge at times.
Couples come in convinced they know what the problem is. It is their relationship after all!
They tell you what’s wrong, and what they think they need. That makes our job pretty simple, right? We just use our years of experience to give them what they need and everything is better.
I wish it were this easy!
If you follow the lead of some couples and give them what they think they need, your work will take longer. It will be meandering, and everyone will end up frustrated at some point.
But there is good news. When you know what to look for, and can identify developmental arrests clearly, you can look underneath to easily see what’s wrong. Then, and only then, can you give them the kind of targeted support that they actually need — not the change they say they want.
I revealed exactly how to do that today.
You’ll come away with clarity about how to recognize 6 developmental capacities that contribute to most couples being stuck. You’ll know how to show your couples the changes that will make the most difference.
I’ll also show you a short 5-minute exercise that reveals so much that is unspoken.