How To Remove Therapeutic
Roadblocks with Couples
Ever feel like even your smartest interventions fall flat with high-conflict couples?
There's a good chance you've spent years training, mastering interventions, and building your expertise. But when it comes to high-conflict couples, even your best techniques fall flat.
💬 The same arguments resurface. One partner shuts down. The other gets defensive. Sessions stall. Progress feels impossible.
And you know that if you could support your couples clients in breaking the toxic cycles and start communicating better, they could be on a new path.
So why do they keep coming back with the same problems?
If you’re exhausted from navigating these emotional standoffs and searching for a way to create real breakthroughs, you’re in the right place.
The truth is, couples stay on the Emotional Dysregulation Merry-go-round of complaints, toxic behaviors, stand-off's and triggers because under stress, clients’ brains don’t care about logic – they care about survival.
And the same old self-protective patterns take over.
Why conventional couples therapy often fails with high-conflict couples
Couples don’t “choose” to snap at each other or shut down. Their nervous systems are running the show: using patterns from a playbook they learned years ago. And no amount of “knowing better” is going to rewrite that script in the heat of the moment.
And yet so many therapists work FAR too hard, yearning to earn their paycheck from dispensing the right information, the right insight, or making the right connection to childhood.
Yet logic, facts, and encouragement are limited.
What will improve the power of these variables?
The answer is in a framework I’ve spent the last decade crafting, refining, practicing, and improving.
And it’s exceptionally potent with what I call “Double D Couples”: distressed and demoralized.
So if you have that couple – the one you picture when you hear “distressed and demoralized,” read on, because this could be the solution you’ve been seeking.
The Growth Formula:
Inspiring Change In Your Toughest Couples
with Couples Expert Dr. Peter Pearson
March 14, 9-10:30 am Pacific Daylight Time
**Register to attend live or get the replay
In this interactive webinar with roleplay demonstration, you will learn…
- The secret to getting couples to want to change – without trying to fix a partner or exhausting yourself
- The 5-part process that turns “We can’t communicate” into real teamwork and emotional connection
- The “Mount Everest Conversation” to get couples to step into a bigger vision
- The quickest way to transform a couple’s power struggle into a shared mission – so they fight for each other instead of with each other
- How to shift couples from stuck to motivated in just one session
Are you working harder than your clients when it should be the other way around?
Teaching skills they don’t use
Solving problems that keep coming back
Watching couples drop out of therapy before the real change happens
If I could teach therapists how to inspire couples to define their Big Picture, and motivate them to work toward it, everything would change.
Are you working harder than your clients – when it should be the other way around?
If I could teach therapists how to inspire couples to define their Big Picture, and motivate them to work toward it, everything would change.
That inspiring vision is much more powerful than problem-solving. And it gets you out of the cycle of…
Want to break the cycle?
Stop giving couples better skills and give them a reason to use them.
When your couples have a vision that’s larger than their current pain, you’re no longer fighting to fix what’s broken. Suddenly, movement is effortless. No more dragging one reluctant partner up the mountain while the other resists. No more exhausting yourself trying to “get through” to them. Change happens on its own. They start doing the work between sessions. They surprise you by showing up differently, taking accountability, and thanking you – not just for the insight, but for the hope you’ve given them.
If you don’t understand this key shift, your toughest couples will quit therapy early.
I’m Dr. Pete Pearson and I’m a performance expert, a leadership and relationship coach, a trainer to therapists in 75 countries, and a life-long experimenter.
I’ve explored techniques with couples for 40+ years and have honed the process of getting distressed couples to “buy in” so they stop seeing therapy as a battle. I’ve completely changed the way I work – I no longer focus on fixing problems, but inspire couples to build something new together. I’ve taught workshops, classes, and mentored therapists for decades and thanks to thousands of hours of roleplay and real client work, I’ve found the secret to getting stubborn, defensive partners to actually listen. And in the process, taught therapists around the world how to make therapy feel exciting instead of like a painful chore.
At its core, The Growth Formula is the quickest way to reignite hope in couples and therapists who feel like giving up.
The Growth Formula:
Inspiring Change In Your Toughest Couples
March 14, 9-10:30 am Pacific Daylight Time | Register to attend live or get the replay
Through Pete, I’m learning about how to support the change people want to make in their lives. Every day, every week, I have his coaching voice in my head. Operating at a whole new level!
– Tom Adams, LMFT, MA, M.Div, Washington
“This is incredible! I can't believe this actually happened! It's like magic.”
– Winnie Adhiambo, Africa
If you’re tired of feeling drained after every high-conflict session, then you’ll love how this approach changes the way you and your clients work
What if your toughest couples aren’t actually “resistant” – but just uninspired? That’s at the heart of this new approach you can use with your high-conflict couples.
Here's what you get
The 5-part process I take all couples through...
that gets them saying things like this, from an actual client email I got last week, “I want to thank you for your perseverance and continued efforts to help me, despite my not-infrequent efforts to work against my own interests. Further, I want to say that my life is incontrovertibly better for us having met, for the time we’ve spent together and for the time I’ve spent exploring your challenges and my own commitment to my goals.”
5 tried and true videos to show in session...
to show couples to ignite and inspire them to do the work ahead. Just hit play, sit back, and let these proven resources do some heavy lifting for you.
Handout: How to Get the Most out of Couples Therapy
I send this handout to every couple before I ever see them. The 3 questions prime them to embrace the journey ahead and start them off with personal accountability, without ever making a confrontation or getting them riled up into a fight.
Handout: Crafting Your Couples Vision
Most therapy falls short because couples lack “the why” AND the compelling reasons to work. This handout helps couples clarify 2 of the most important drivers of the work ahead.
Roleplay demonstration of The Mount Everest Conversation
When you can guide couples through this conversation, you can turn just about every heated argument to an exchange shaped by respect, empathy, and compassion. Some therapists apply this to their own relationship too! A tall order, I know. But I will show you exactly how it’s done!
If you’re tired of feeling drained after every high-conflict session, then you’ll love how this approach changes the way you and your clients work
What if your toughest couples aren’t actually “resistant” – but just uninspired? That’s at the heart of this new approach you can use with your high-conflict couples.
Here’s what you’ll get…
The 5-part process I take all couples through...
that gets them saying things like this, from an actual client email I got last week, “I want to thank you for your perseverance and continued efforts to help me, despite my not-infrequent efforts to work against my own interests. Further, I want to say that my life is incontrovertibly better for us having met, for the time we’ve spent together and for the time I’ve spent exploring your challenges and my own commitment to my goals.”
5 tried and true videos
to show couples to ignite and inspire them to do the work ahead. Just hit play, sit back, and let these proven resources do some heavy lifting for you.
Handout: How to Get the Most out of Couples Therapy
I send this handout to every couple before I ever see them. The 3 questions prime them to embrace the journey ahead and start them off with personal accountability, without ever making a confrontation or getting them riled up into a fight.
Handout: Crafting Your Couples Vision
most therapy falls short because couples lack “the why” AND the compelling reasons to work. This handout helps couples clarify 2 of the most important drivers of the work ahead.
Roleplay demonstration of The Mount Everest Conversation
when you can guide couples through this conversation, you can turn just about every heated argument to an exchange shaped by respect, empathy, and compassion. Some therapists apply this to their own relationship too! A tall order, I know. But I will show you exactly how it’s done!
Your “Mind Blown” or Your Money Back
I know most webinars don’t offer a guarantee. But that’s because most webinars don’t change the way you think about therapy.
So here’s my promise to you: If you don’t walk away from this webinar with at least one insight, one powerful new way to work with distressed and demoralized couples, then I insist on giving you your money back.
And honestly? If that happens, I’ll want to talk to you about creating a whole new training together.
Here’s what I know: When you apply what you learn here, couples who would have otherwise quit therapy will stay longer, progress faster, and actually start doing the work. That means fewer exhausting sessions for you, happier clients, and more success stories.
So for an $89 investment, this webinar will pay for itself many times over.
You’re not a punching bag. Stop letting high-conflict couples treat you like one. That’s where The Big Picture: How to Stop The Fighting and Restart the Loving comes in.
You’ll learn:
- How to manage intensity without getting steamrolled or stuck
- What to do when one partner is shut down and the other won’t stop talking
- The magic question that makes even the most resistant partner take responsibility
- A simple structure to guide sessions – so you don’t get lost in their drama
- How to get control before the session spirals into chaos
- A proven reframe that stops couples from attacking each other (or you)
- How to frame goals so couples start doing the work themselves
You don’t have to white-knuckle your way through another session. This shows you how.
You’re not a punching bag. Stop letting high-conflict couples treat you like one. That’s where The Big Picture: How to Stop The Fighting and Restart the Loving comes in.
You’ll learn:
- How to manage intensity without getting steamrolled or stuck
- What to do when one partner is shut down and the other won’t stop talking
- The magic question that makes even the most resistant partner take responsibility
- A simple structure to guide sessions – so you don’t get lost in their drama
- How to get control before the session spirals into chaos
- A proven reframe that stops couples from attacking each other (or you)
- How to frame goals so couples start doing the work themselves
FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
1. How do I know if this will work with my couples?
This framework is designed especially for distressed and demoralized couples – the ones who are stuck in endless cycles of blame, resentment, and disengagement. The 5 step process has been practiced and refined over years. You are getting the best version of The Growth Formula that has been tested with the most hostile couples imaginable. If you’re exhausted from dragging couples toward change, and if you’re looking for a method that actually gets couples to inspire themselves to do the work, then this is for you.
2. What will I learn in this webinar?
This isn’t another webinar about generic communication skills or problem-solving techniques.
You’ll learn…
- The 5-part process that turns “We can’t communicate” into teamwork and connection.
- The 5 tried-and-true videos you can show couples to inspire them – without having to convince them yourself.
- What most therapists get wrong about “communication problems” and how to shift to the Mount Everest Conversation to transform hostile dynamics in under 15 minutes.
- How to turn a resistant partner into an active, engaged teammate in therapy.
- Why couples keep repeating the same fights and the secret to getting couples to change themselves – so you’re not dragging them up the mountain.
- How to get couples to change – without forcing things, fixing them, or exhausting yourself in the process.
- The easiest way to keep marginal couples engaged – so they stay in therapy longer and get real results.
3. How quickly can I use what I learn?
I haven’t done my job right if you don’t walk away with tangible techniques that you can start using the very next day. And the best part? You won’t be working harder – your couples will.
4. What if I can’t attend live?
No problem! If you register, you’ll get the replay, so you can watch at your convenience.
5. What makes this different from other couples trainings?
Most trainings focus on what to do during sessions – giving you more tools, more interventions, and more frameworks. But here’s the problem: If your clients don’t have a reason to change, none of that matters.
This webinar is different because it focuses on how to create the desire to change in your couples. When that’s in place, it’s like switching from pushing a boulder uphill to having it roll on its own. You won’t have to force change – it will happen naturally.
6. Is there a guarantee?
Yes. If you don’t gain at least one powerful, practical insight that makes your work with couples easier, I’ll refund you in full. No fine print, no hassles – just email me, and I’ll return your money.
And honestly? If you walk away without learning something new, I’d love to talk to you – because that would mean we need to create an entirely new training together.
7. How much does it cost?
Just $89 – a small investment for a framework that can completely shift the way you work with couples. You’ll see longer client retention, more engaged couples, and an easier therapy process – which means this webinar will pay for itself many times over.
The Growth Formula:
Inspiring Change In Your Toughest Couples
March 14, 9-10:30 am Pacific Daylight Time | Register to attend live or get the replay
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