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The Initiator-Inquirer:

Changing Ingrained Communication Patterns and Building New Capacities

Price: $92 (Normally $107)

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Help couples improve their communication skills and end their blaming and shaming

Conflictual conversations occur when each partner becomes self-protective.
All ineffective communication stems from the natural desire to get relief from the pain or threat each person feels.
Using a unique and proven structure to guide you through some of the toughest topics, you will be able to teach partners how to discuss difficulties without triggering defensive reflexes in one another.
This bundle offers complete training on our most widely used intervention, with audio, video, and client handouts.

Training #1: Beyond I Messages: Safe and Sane Couples Communication

This 1-hour audio training comes with a transcript so you can conveniently skim and review the material after you listen to it. You will learn:

Training #2: Dr. Ellyn Bader Presents the Initiator-Inquirer Process

This 90-minute video training session covers the Initiator-Inquirer process:
I-I Tent Cards (pack of 25 sets)
Give these guide cards to your couples for coaching and immediate anchoring when they are learning the Initiator-Inquirer communication process in your office or practicing it at home.

Meet your teachers, Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson

Ellyn and Peter co-founded The Couples Institute in 1986 and have an impressive legacy in couples therapy training. They are creators of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, a model that teaches therapists how to diagnose, intervene, and significantly help troubled relationships. They have presented workshops to therapists throughout the United States as well as Europe, Asia, South America, and Australia, and Ellyn currently conducts an online program that has trained professionals from over 60 countries.

Peter and Ellyn are authors of two books. Their first book, In Quest of the Mythical Mate, won the Clark Vincent Award by the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy and has been reprinted over 20 times. Their second book, Tell Me No Lies, was written for the public and has been of critical help to many couples.

Peter and Ellyn have been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including The Today Show and CBS Early Morning News, and they have been quoted in countless publications including The New York Times, Oprah Magazine, and Cosmopolitan.
Ellyn and Peter are unusual in their field in that they are a couple themselves and have confronted many of the challenges that they write and speak about.

What Others Have Said

“The whole of Peter and Ellyn’s work is indeed greater than the sum of its parts. Their gifts to the profession, and to the couples they work with, are a creative expression of the most synergistic stage of partnership: the desire to give back to the world.”

Kay O’Neill, MFCC; Palo Alto, CA

“I studied 6 or 7 therapeutic models for couples counseling when I first began my career…. None of them offered the clarity and the practical knowledge for assessment, diagnosis, and treatment that the Bader/Pearson developmental model offers. Since studying with Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson I have found my own work with couples has deepened dramatically, allowing me to feel truly effective at helping people make lasting changes in their relationships. I feel happier and more fulfilled in my work and my clients are happier as a result of the work we’ve done.”

Lorelei Hammond, LCSW, Pt. Arena, CA

“Getting trained by Ellyn and Pete has transformed my work as a couples therapist to a new level of expertise. Their differentiation-based model of therapy is extremely effective and they have a keen ability to translate theory into powerful clinical action. They both have an engaging teaching style and give on-target feedback which is incredibly helpful in challenging you as a therapist to go beyond the comfort zone we can all get stuck in!! Most importantly, they refreshingly embody the model they teach – with each other as a couple and in relating to their students – dealing non defensively and directly with differences while staying firmly connected. They are the best!!”

Judith Anderson, Ph.D., University of California, Irvine

Help couples communicate calmly and clearly about even the most heated topics.