Do you feel anxious before sessions
with hostile couples?

When couples activate each other, you need much more than intuition.

To solve their issues for good, you need to know what’s really going on.

One main reason you haven’t made progress with these couples is because these partners confuse behavioral change with developmental change.

They’ll say something like, “I want my partner to express more emotion,” or “I’d like my partner to be more empathic.”

They’re asking for something that takes place over time, but they treat it as if it’s as easy as learning to tie a pair of shoes.

What they’re asking isn’t wrong. Or bad. In fact, it would enrich the relationship. But they have to understand that what they are asking for does not come easily or naturally for their partner.

When this game of “I need you to change” escalates, couples become critical, hostile, and demanding.

And they ask you to change it.

Do you know how?

In our 30+ years of training professionals, we discovered that fighting couples top the list of things that prevent therapists from wanting to work with couples.

Too many therapists feel anxious working with these couples. They get lost and wander through sessions.

They feel out of their depth. Unproductive. And they carry around the stress afterwards.

So we took a look at all the reasons that fighting couples gnash at each other – trauma re-enactments, resentments, hostility – and put together the solution to lead your couples out of the dark.

Introducing our special training bundle…

The Hostile Angry Couple &
Addressing Trauma Through Couples Therapy

Fighting couples are intense; learn to use their energy to support progress with helpful tools like…
The questions you need to ask yourself when working with long-term hostile dependent couples

When couples are re-enacting trauma or repeating fights, it’s hard to break through. They likely can’t hear you because of the stored pain from when they were invalidated or criticized as a child.

You need tools to break through their defensive walls.

That’s why we included…

This bundle will help you take a strong leadership role and be more targeted in your interventions with angry partners. You will have a tremendous advantage once you understand their dynamics and know how to help them change.

On Sale Until November 14

This bundle also covers…

When you order now, you’ll get…

As a bonus, you’ll get the following handouts!

The Hostile Angry Couple
Addressing Trauma Through Couples Therapy Bundle

41% OFF!

Check out what other therapists are saying...

“This gave me exactly what I needed for a couple I have been working with for a while. She is hostile dependent and he is somewhat passive aggressive. ….We are moving forward slowly, but it is so reassuring for me as a therapist to see clearly and have a plan.”
Cecilie Croissant, LPC
Collinsville, OK
“Over the years, I had added many tools to my toolbox. But with couples, I found myself often at a loss. Using the CI approach for hostile angry couples has become so very important to me. I’m learning to identify a couples’ cycle sooner, describe it better, noticing vulnerability and applauding it.”
Andrea Tang, LMHC
Port Saint Lucie, FL
On Sale Until November 14

Meet Your Teacher, Dr. Ellyn Bader

Hi, I'm Dr. Ellyn Bader. I am the co-founder and the director of The Couples Institute and co-creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, with my husband, Dr. Peter Pearson. When we created the Developmental Model over 30 years ago, it helped launch the specialty of couples therapy. The Developmental Model has not only withstood the test of time, but it has served as the foundation for all of the strategies and interventions introduced at The Couples Institute and taught around the world. I want to give you the tools and strategies we’ve learned so that it won’t take you years to discover them. After helping thousands of therapists like you, I know I can help you, too.

“But Ellyn, I’m not seeing very many couples in my practice currently.
Can this still help me?"


Whether you work with couples or individuals, you’re bound to end up with an angry client in your office. The tools you learn in this guide help you manage the anger in a constructive way and support your leadership in high intensity situations.

If you’re interested in seeing more couples, this guide equips you with what you need to feel comfortable taking on new clients, especially ones with built up resentment and bitterness. And you’ll learn a proven way to recover if you’ve made a mistake or if the couple doesn’t respond well to something you’ve asked or said (all is not lost)!

You’ll also discover how to structure the first few sessions with these clients so they don’t have the same complaints about you that they have about therapists they’ve worked with in the past.

On Sale Until November 14

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