Therapists, Counselors, and Coaches - Finally be effective when working with the self-absorbed partner in your couples sessions.

Get your Free Guide, The Self-Absorbed Client: Evolving Their Troublesome Traits into Empathy and Engagement.

It can be frustrating working with these types of clients when they are so preoccupied with themselves, their emotions, and desires. Or worse, they are self-indulgent and prioritize their own thoughts, activities, and interests at the expense of the relationship.

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If you have struggled working with these clients, you know how frustrating it can be to make significant progress. In 30 plus years of working in Silicon Valley, CA with couples, I have seen all different levels of self-absorption.

I want to share my experiences and how I’ve learned to effectively work with this group of people despite my counter-transference and being appalled at the amount of self-centeredness I’ve encountered over the years.

In this guide, you’ll find:

  • The most common troublesome traits
  • Why the self-absorption is a problem for the spouse
  • What the future of the relationship will likely be if left alone
  • Help to know what to do, when to do it, and why – it’s empowering!
  • A client handout that you can use that helps partners assess their capacity to be empathic

About Ellyn

Hi, I'm Ellyn Bader. I am the co-founder and the director of The Couples Institute and co-creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, with my husband, Dr. Peter Pearson.

When we created the Developmental Model over 30 years ago, it helped launched the specialty of couples therapy.

The Developmental Model has not only withstood the test of time, but it has served as the foundation for all of the strategies and interventions introduced at The Couples Institute and taught around the world.

I want to give you the tools and strategies I’ve learned so that it won’t take you years to discover them.

After helping thousands of therapists like you, I know I can help you, too.

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