Dare to be Great

The Mentoring Program that will create a transformation in your Practice and your Life.

“I opened up my own practice, and I filled my practice and have a wait list. Now I have the highest salary I’ve made in my life.”
Kelly Scharver, LPC
“I’d say my income has quadrupled.”
Nancy St. John, H.Dip. Counseling
“In 10 minutes he [Pete] can change your life.”
Martha Kauppi, MFT

Join an elite group of therapists and learn from two of the world’s foremost couples therapy pioneers, Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson.

Bring Your Vision to Life

Dr. Ellyn Bader

Dr. Peter Pearson

We are offering you a unique way to grow professionally and personally beyond what you might currently imagine or hope is possible.

Six years ago our hard won insights and successes led us to develop a one-of-a-kind training and mentoring program that jet-propels your professional success and personal development.

This is the only program we know about that integrates all three major components of success:

  • Business Proficiency to help you build your business and marketing skills
  • Increased Clinical Expertise to make you more effective in your practice
  • Personal Transformation to help you reach further than you ever dreamed possible

Let’s dive a little more into each.

Clinical Expertise

You will master vital clinical skills with difficult couples that most therapists want to refer in order to preserve their sanity. Learn how to work with these clients and you are like the battlefield surgeon who doesn’t get rattled because you have the skills and temperament to handle whatever comes your way.

"I gained so much confidence through the year and momentum to move forward."

Sue Diamond Potts, RCC
Vancouver, B.C.

“What a great feeling!! Whenever, I try to change things up and it works, I get so very excited! It's like finding a treasure after searching for the key.”

Janae Munday, LCSW
Phoenix, AZ

Personal Transformation

Everybody has one or more persistent voices of fear, doubt, uncertainty, or unworthiness that are misguided attempts at self-protection. In this mentoring group we will help you deal directly with your personal blocks. Your creativity, resourcefulness, and self-confidence will increase by leaps and bounds.

“It’s the place where people can be raw, real, differentiated, and supported. The place where people can soar and stumble. And when you do, loving and supportive faces will be beaming back at you. I have the reins of my own life. I went from having a poverty mindset working in a group private practice based solely on managed care payments making a meager income, to owning my own practice accepting only private pay. My sessions are full with private pay clients and I have a waiting list. I got rid of my dead laptop and dead car. My personal and financial growth was exponential."

Kelly Scharver, LPC
Virginia Beach, VA

"I’m probably as personally and professionally happy as I’ve been in recent memory."

Paul McCandless, MFT
Fullerton, CA

Business Proficiency

You want to reach further and help more people. You want to have more impact in the world. You have a desire to teach, write, train, speak, or consult and these desires are pressing to be fulfilled. You don’t want a life hoping you will get enough referrals and that clients will find you and your website. You may even want to create your own institute and leverage your income. You’ll get the business and marketing skills to bring your voice and talents to a larger audience.

"I have had a personal transformation...I can do things that I could never have imagined."

Martha Kauppi, MFT
Madison, WI

"It was my own skills deficit that really hooked me in. I really knew I needed to work more effectively with couples ... but I really didn't know what I needed.

My work has transformed this year and my confidence has increased a lot."

Nancy St. John, H.Dip. Counseling
Tullamore, Ireland

"The investment has been more than incredible since joining the mentor group.

I've been very grateful for the support that not only Ellyn and Pete have given but also our peer groups and mentoring group as a whole.

I have developed really close friends and colleagues through this group."

Paula Dennan, MSocSc, Dip Psych (Clin)
Auckland, New Zealand

This program is for you if you are:

  • Ready for a year of profound personal and professional growth
  • Not afraid to strive for your ideal clinical practice
  • Not afraid of the change that comes with business and personal growth
  • Ready to push for more clinical competence with couples
  • Willing to learn about marketing
  • Willing to be part of a very sharing community

This program is NOT for you if you are:

  • Are satisfied with your career and the size and impact of your business
  • Just want a few email marketing strategies and operations insights to help your business
  • Aren’t inclined to share and open up to others in a safe setting
  • Are not very interested in couples and relationship dynamics

Here's what you receive in our year-long
Master Mentoring Program

Any successful mastermind or high-performing group involves a balance between what is offered by the leaders and what is expected from participants. Valuable leadership, knowledge, and resources are offered while input, feedback, and accountability are expected.

We provide a formal, structured curriculum that teaches proven, cutting-edge strategies for your clinical, personal, and business growth inside of a nurturing, motivating, and inspiring series of live meetings and phone calls.

You’ll get productive and consistent feedback from us as well as from the other group members.

We typically only open the group up to 6-10 new members each year. These new members will be in a community with returning members who give support and feedback from their successes. These returning members come back for the close community support and to continue to advance their own dreams.

Virtual Retreat Workshops, Group Conference Calls, and Implementation Days

The focus of these meetings is integrating clinical, business, and personal development. The first meeting will be in late January.

For each of the months that we don’t meet virtually as a group, each member can attend any or all Office Hours and Implementation days, to continue progress in the following areas: personal transformation, business, marketing, operations, and clinical effectiveness.

In 2021 we have arranged the program for the following:

  • Two 2-day virtual workshops (the first in late January)
  • One Clinical virtual (full day or 2 hours TBD) following the Couples Conference in June 2021
  • Four Implementation days where you will work on your top priorities
  • Four months of Office Hours with our 5 faculty members where you can bring your questions and get help moving forward
  • Peer groups arranged by topic of interest
  • Community communication channel just for this group
  • And much, much, more...

Here’s what you need to be prepared to give:

  • Your focus for one year!
  • Willingness to gain insight into barriers blocking your success
  • Collaboration, not competition: This is a supportive community where you support others and they support you

And here are the invaluable career resources you’ll have at your fingertips upon joining the group:

  • Free access to Ellyn’s year-long Developmental Model of Couples Therapy online training program
  • Free access to Ellyn’s online Advanced Training program
  • Complimentary registration at the Couples Conference, if you choose to attend
  • When you are ready, you will have full use of Ellyn’s training curriculum to run Developmental Model first-year training/consultation groups or workshops for therapists in your community
  • Full use of Pete’s Coming from the Heart Couples Workshop materials and exercises, which you can use as a “workshop in a box” or modify to fit your situation
  • A website analysis from our webmaster
  • A set of all Master Mentoring Program lessons and insights to refer to and keep.

"To get to work personally in a small setting with Ellyn and Pete is phenomenal."

Alexa S. Elkington, M.A., MFT
Las Vegas, NV

About Ellyn and Pete

We’re Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson. For over 30 years, we’ve been on a mission to help stop unnecessary and premature divorces that wreck couples and tear families apart. We’ve worked with couples in the San Francisco Bay Area and have trained thousands of committed, exceptional couples therapists throughout the world (55 countries) in our own Developmental Model of Couples Therapy.

Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson of The Couples Institute

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What does the Master Mentoring Program cost?

You might consider the program to be expensive. It all depends on your perspective and if you look at a program like this as a cost or as an investment. It all depends on your perspective and if you look at a program like this as a cost or an investment. Although it is not as expensive as a graduate school. It is like graduate school in terms of the investment that has a lifetime payoff.

We'll go over this when we discuss this in your personal interview how you can see a return on your investment by developing the skills and attitudes that last as long as your career.

What’s the most important aspect of the program?

We start with your current situation.

Participants in our program over the past six years have ranged from small practice owners to owners already managing associates, thought leaders, and many more. Through the program they’ve learned how to accomplish far more than they thought they ever could. 

Some of our favorite comments so far from this year’s group have been, “Wow, can you believe where we are?” and “Remember when we were just planning names of our centers?” 

If you want to make your mark on the world of relationships, you are capable of doing so. We can help you elevate your offering and do it in a much more agreeable time-to-income trade-off.

Take the next step now.

What’s required for a few intrepid souls to join our unique Mentoring Program? A crazy level of commitment. This is not a program for casual dabbling. When was the last time you heard of getting outstanding results while giving minimal efforts?

If you would like to be considered for the 2020 Master Mentoring Program provide your contact information below. Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson will reach out to set up a time to talk with you privately about your goals and the scope of the program.

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“It’s the place where people can be raw, real, differentiated, and supported. The place where people can soar and stumble. And when you do, loving and supportive faces will be beaming back at you. I have the reins of my own life. I went from having a poverty mindset working in a group private practice based solely on managed care payments making a meager income, to owning my own practice accepting only private pay. My sessions are full with private pay clients and I have a waiting list. I got rid of my dead laptop and dead car. My personal and financial growth was exponential."

Kelly Scharver, LPC
Virginia Beach, VA

Common Questions About Our Training

1. What about CE Credits?

Most healthcare professionals can earn 36 hours of Continuing Education credit by completing this course. Please read the course objectives, accreditation, and other information before registering.

2. Will this approach support how I work with my clients?

Yes! The integration of attachment theory, differentiation theory, and neuroscience has proven to be compatible with therapists I have trained throughout the United States, Europe, Asia, Australia, and South America. Our training receives consistent and enthusiastic feedback that it enhances and supports other approaches of working with couples.

3. I don’t have a lot of experience with couples. Will this training be too advanced?

Likely not. Over the years, the therapists who have gone through my training typically include novices through seasoned therapists. The feedback we get is that therapists on all levels appreciate the understandable ways our strategies and interventions can be immediately applied to their own practice.

If you work mainly with individuals, you will learn a lot that will influence how you approach your individual clients who are depressed, angry, or stuck due to their relationship problems. There is a special training section to show you how to apply the Developmental Model to individual clients and their relationship issues.

4. I have quite a bit of experience with couples. Will this just be a repeat of what I already know?

Not unless you have done extensive training with me in the Developmental Model already. The consistent feedback I get, even from therapists who have been in long-term practice, is how valuable these concepts are along with the opportunity to get feedback as you integrate them with your actual clients.

5. Who is right for this training?

The training can benefit a wide variety of professionals who work with individuals in relationships or with couples. Past participants have included Psychologists, Clinical Social Workers, Marriage and Family Therapists, Marriage Counselors, Clergy, Mental Health Counselors, Relationship Coaches, and more.

6. I’m not that tech-savvy. Is the online part of the training program difficult to use?

Most therapists – myself included – feel some anxiety about using technology. I’ve worked hard to be sure that our materials are very user-friendly. And our office staff is patient with beginners. So don’t let it scare you; jump right in!

7. How can I get my individual questions addressed?

You can ask questions throughout the training program. I stay on the monthly phone calls to answer all the questions you have, and my team also monitors the questions asked on the blog around the clock.

8. What makes this training different from taking a conventional online CE course?

With many online courses there is no interaction with the instructor. You can’t ask questions about a specific case you’re working with. You can’t get elaborations on especially relevant interventions. There is no way to ask, “Now what?”

Our training is different. We look forward to talking with you and answering your questions about clients you’re working with and interventions that we’ve seen successful. Therapists who have gone through our program also share they enjoy the support they receive from peers in our online community.

9. What makes this different from going to a workshop at a conference?

At a workshop or conference, you generally will not get your specific questions answered completely. It isn’t the environment where you can continue to ask deeper and deeper questions until they are answered. You can’t, generally, have conversations with the presenter as they have too much material to cover and too many people who want their attention. You cannot even call the instructor after the workshop and say, “Wow, what you taught was really great, now how can I apply the interventions to my particular case?” A workshop is not designed to be comprehensive.

However, our program is designed to be comprehensive. This is what makes us so different. Our training includes all of this and much more!

10. Why does this training extend over the course of a year?

In our experience, you will need this time to implement, experiment, and learn how to apply the interventions and strategies with confidence.

As I mentioned before, skillful couples therapy is not mastered in the occasional workshop or reading good books and articles. This prolonged format gives you the big picture and then time to apply specific strategies to specific situations. As your confidence grows, you will need different feedback. A longer training program allows you to get support through your evolution. Most participants spend about 4 hours each month to read and digest the material and calls.

The truth is you need two things to be successful – not just with couples, but also in almost any area of your life. The first is knowledge of how to achieve the success. The second is the dedication to acquire and apply that knowledge.

11. What if several of us at an agency want to take the training?

Agency discounts are available for 3 or more people. Please call 1-877-327-5915 or contact us for more information.

You no longer have to feel like your sessions are getting out of control, or feel like you can’t break through arguments. Today, you can learn structure, direction, tools, and insight to feel courageous and confident as a couples therapist.

Frequently Asked Questions

    1. Do I have to focus on each area - Business, Clinical, and Personal? 

No. People typically take advantage of at least part of each area, but tend to focus on the top 1-2 areas that are most meaningful to them.

    2. I don’t work with couples - can I still join? 

Yes! The program is designed to support you whether you work with couples or individual therapists.

    3. If I start, am I committed to the full year? 

Yes! You take a space when you sign up, and we invest a lot in making the opportunity work fully for you in that space. Partial year memberships are not possible.

    4. Do I have to already know and work with the Developmental Model? 

To be successful in the program, it is ideal, but not required that you are very familiar with the Couples Institute’s Developmental Model stages, techniques and insights, perhaps having been part of our community for a year or so. Access to the Level One training is included in the membership cost so that you can develop your clinical expertise with us.