1. Identify couples stuck in symbiosis and delineate developmental assists.
2. Describe the skills needed for partners to evolve beyond hostility and Interrupt Rapid Escalation of Hostility.
3. Define developmental trauma and demonstrate how it shows in couples therapy.
4. Explore 5 ways that developmental trauma impacts self-differentiation.
5. Distinguish between PTSD and developmental trauma.
6. Describe the disorganization needed for development to evolve in a dyadic system.
7. Delineate 6 aspects of partners developmental stalemate.
8. Demonstrate and use gestalt 2-chair work.
9. Describe the use of journaling to work with intergenerational trauma.
10. Discuss how to structure sessions when both partners are angry.
11. Describe how to recognize denied addiction.
12. Discuss ways to educate couples about the genetics of alcohol addiction.
13. Define 5 main types of trauma that affect couples relationships.
14. Describe 6 ways shame appears in clients in couples therapy.
15. Utilize the Initiator-Inquirer process to build self-capacities that improve clients emotional regulation.
16. Discuss how to recognize each partner’s self-protective coping mechanisms.
17. Utilize your assessment of life cycle stresses to normalize some of couples problems.
18. Describe different possible goals for separated couples.
19. Delineate what is involved in separating well and minimizing long-term negative impacts.
20. Identify common emotional and self-capacities that are missing in partners who complain about poor communication.
21. Identify intrapsychic conflicts and structure sessions to promote resolution of these conflicts.
22. Describe why problem-solving does not work with couples in the stage of early differentiation.
23. Delineate how to set goals with partners in the early differentiation stage that keep them working at their developmental edge.
24. Defining confrontation as it is used in therapy and list 9 reason why confrontation is necessary.
25. Demonstrate the sequence of effective confrontation.
26. Explain how to develop a gentle but impactful confrontation.
27. Identify the role of projection in maintaining symbiosis.
28. Identify how a chosen goal can retraumatize one or both partners.
29. Describe how to create homework assignments that push each partner’s development.
30. Demonstrate the use of self-soothing techniques.