Looking for Marriage Counseling in San Francisco?

Watch the video (to the right) on our counseling philosophy at The Couples Institute, and see available therapists below.

Meet Julia Flood, LCSW...
One of Our San Francisco-based
Marriage Therapists

Julia is passionate about helping couples in crisis to break out of the vicious cycle of hurting and being hurt.


One of Julia's specialties is helping multi-cultural couples deal with cultural and religious differences that often pose major stumbling blocks to their relationship.

Julia will help you create a safe space to explore and uncover the underlying dynamics and destructive patterns in your interactions with one another, and help you break out of them, providing new tools to communicate your needs without falling into familiar conflict patterns. This works to restore broken trust, allowing you to rediscover the joy, surprise, and intimacy your relationship once had.

You might be feeling very little hope for your relationship right now. Julia sees her job as holding that hope for you until you can see whether it is possible to rebuild your commitment.

Julia’s practice is in San Francisco’s Lower Pacific Heights district. She has been married for 20 years and has 2 children. Julia has been working in the mental health field since 1996 and is bilingual in German.

Other Therapists From The Couples Institute In This Area

  • San Francisco

    Robert Solley, Ph.D.

    Robert Solley, Ph.D. Robert’s style is both active and empathic as he guides you to identify and improve unhelpful patterns, always with an eye towards sustainable change. Click his name above to read more about him or contact The Couples Institute if you would like to request an appointment.
  • Menlo Park

    Peter Pearson

    Peter Pearson For more than 27 years, Peter Pearson, Ph.D. has been specializing in helping couples transform their relationships. He is co-founder and co-director of The Couples Institute with his wife, Dr. Ellyn Bader. Contact The Couples Institute to request an appointment with him.
  • Campbell

    Russell Wilkie

    Russell Wilkie has counseled couples and families with difficult psychological challenges since he started his career working in an inpatient psychiatric hospital in 1986. He is experienced in issues around chemical dependency, violence, and crisis intervention, as well as more common concerns such as communication, transition and fulfillment. To read more about Russell, click his name above or to make an appointment click The Couples Institute.
  • Campbell

    Patrice Wolters

    Patrice Wolters is a licensed psychologist with over twenty-three years of experience working with couples, adults, teens, and children. She is especially interested in working with couples struggling with communication, conflict resolution, parenting, sexuality, intimacy, and procrastination. To read more about Patrice click her name above. To request an appointment with her click here The Couples Institute.
  • Menlo Park

    Michelle Wangler

    Michelle Wangler helps couples manage conflicts and stop the negative cycles—a major cause of distress. She explains, “I teach couples communication skills specific to their relationship dynamics, so that they can repair blunders and prevent painful interactions from recurring….” Contact The Couples Institute about making an appointment with her.
  • Menlo Park

    Barbara Green

    Barbara Green is a psychotherapist with more than 30 years of clinical experience working with couples and individuals. Clients appreciate her knowledge and expertise as well as her warm and engaging style. Contact The Couples Institute about an appointment with her.
  • Menlo Park

    Peter Klein

    Peter Klein is a licensed clinical Psychologist and Marriage and Family Therapist in Menlo Park. Clients benefit from his clinical expertise and his careful attention to detail, since both contribute to their overall positive experience and results. Contact The Couples Institute to reach him about an appointment.
  • Menlo Park

    Stacy Lee

    Stacy Lee, MFT Intern, offers therapy for individuals and couples who wish to work on relationship issues, life transitions, family of origin issues, self-esteem, and a wide range of other personal challenges. Contact The Couples Institute if you would like to make an appointment with her.
  • Menlo Park, San Mateo

    Sara Bunce

    Sara Bunce has a gentle, empathic style that offers safety for challenging feelings and insights. She helps clients look at underlying patterns that may be creating difficulties for themselves individually and in their relationship. Contact The Couples Institute if you would like to make an appointment with her.
  • San Mateo

    Kirsten Kell

    Kirsten Kell uses communication and problem solving skills to help couples increase their intimacy both emotionally and physically. Click on her name to read more about her or click The Couples Institute to make an appointment with Kirsten.
  • Redwood City

    Lori Collins

    Lori Collins, MS, MFT Lori provides professional counseling, coaching and education to help couples stay connected, functioning as teammates not opponents. Click on Lori’s name above to read more about her or click The Couples Institute if you would like to make an appointment with her.

How Do You Know You Are Making the Right Decision About Choosing a Couples Therapist?

The reality is – you won’t know for sure until you have one or two meetings. But that can be expensive in terms of time and money.

It’s like a blind date. Research is important. The more you find out before meeting in person, the shorter your search can be.

We are an institute. This means highly trained couples therapists and access to more enriching resources than any single practitioner could provide. We like the word free, and think you might like it too.

For example, while you are working with your Couples Institute therapist you have free access to archived, privileged online information. In this special private area of our website, you will find audios, articles, and demonstrations of Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson teaching you how to tackle thorny relationship problems.

These cutting edge tools, skills and insights can accelerate the growth of your relationship. This saves enormous time, energy, and money which increases the value of the time spent in the therapy office.

Imagine having easy, accessible help between sessions on a wide variety of couples issues including:

  • Revitalizing your sexual relationship.
  • How to stop fighting about how to raise your children – with one discussion! Is that a bold promise, or what?
  • Super negotiating for couples. A step by step approach for negotiating the toughest problems.
  • The four-step Safe and Sane communication process that can have you communicating like champs – sooner than you thought possible. (Another bold claim for sure.)
  • How to rapidly recover from a nasty argument. Stop the cold shoulders or aggressive escalations.
  • How and why one region of your brain is the trigger for most of the distress in your relationship and how to use that information to reduce or eliminate trauma.

And much more! We have over 40 hours of audios in our collection, and you can listen to these trainings while you get personalized guidance and feedback from your specially trained Couples Institute therapist.

Other advantages from The Couples Institute:

  • Your therapy starts before the first meeting. You will be given the document, “How To Get the Most Out of Couples Therapy.” It gives you an overview of what you could expect from us, and our thoughts about how relationships change.
  • Information describing the Stages of Successful Relationships. This will enable you to identify where you are stuck and where you want to go.
  • If you request it, you may have a free copy of our very popular book, Tell Me No Lies, How to Face the Truth and Build a Loving Marriage. Here we describe how to change negative, painful cycles and develop a relationship based on honesty with compassion.

Our therapists will recommend a longer session for your first appointment. This enables them to understand your situation and most of the time can start making headway in the first session. If this sounds like it could be a good fit, let’s get started. Just click the button at the top of the page to request an appointment, or pick up the phone and give us a call at 415-675-1942. We’ll be back in touch within 24 hours or on the next business day.

Frequently Asked Questions

Do you have a sliding scale for fees?

The fees range from $145 – $250 per 50-minute session, depending upon the therapist’s license and years of experience.

Do you have a sliding scale for fees?

We don’t have a sliding scale, but sometimes we have one intern who charges less.  Check “Meet the Marriage Counselors” to see if there is currently an intern on staff. If our costs for therapy are too high for your budget, we encourage you to try our self-development resources. Click Couples Resources. You can also find low fee therapists at your county’s Family Service or Mental Health Departments. They are listed in the front of your telephone book by county, or you can search online.

Do you take insurance?

Many of our clients submit their statements to their insurance companies for reimbursement. While our billing statements comply with insurance requirements to facilitate your reimbursement, we are not affiliated with any HMOs or PPOs and we do not accept payments from insurance companies. We recommend that you check with your insurance company to see what services your policy covers.

How long will we need to come?

The duration of treatment depends on how long the pattern has been in place, your motivation and your goals. Some couples come for just a few visits for a tune up, while others make a long-term effort. A complimentary telephone consultation with one of our therapists can help answer this question specific to your situation. Contact us and we will help you arrange one.

Should I see a man or a woman?

You might have a preference for working with a man or with a woman, but in fact, male and female therapists are equally prepared to deal with the problems confronting you.  If you are unsure, you may request a complimentary telephone consultation with one of our male and one of our female therapists, to see whether you feel more comfortable with either of them. Contact us and we will help you schedule it.

Where are you located?

Our main office is in Menlo Park, and our therapists practice all along the peninsula. They are located from San Jose up to San Francisco.  Under each therapist's picture above is the city in which they practice.

What are your hours?

Our therapists work different hours. Some of them are available for evening or weekend appointments as well.  If you are in need of a specific time of the day, our office can let you know which therapists on our staff can see you. Call our office at 415-675-1942 or click contact us. There you’ll find a contact form with room for additional notes so you can let us know.

How can I get started?

The quickest ways for you to get started are 1)  click the 'Request an Appointment' above or 2) call our office at 415-675-1942. Then we’ll arrange for one of the therapists to contact you.  Our therapists do their own scheduling, so you can set an appointment with them on the phone at that time.

How do you protect my confidentiality?

All consultations and records are confidential. We do not email, fax or transmit health information by any electronic mode. Further, no one will be advised of your participation in counseling unless you specifically request it, in writing. The law provides certain exclusions for confidentiality in cases of child abuse, adult or domestic abuse, health oversight, judicial or administrative proceedings, threat to health or safety, and worker’s compensation.

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Tell Me No Lies by Ellyn Bader, Ph.D. and Peter Pearson, Ph.D. presents insightful case examples of couples who illustrate typical behavior patterns.  Read more... 

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