
Discover How to Help Couples Recovering from Infidelity:
Effectively and With Confidence
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(Even if you don’t know where to start, what to do next when further crisis or deception is revealed, or you’re trying to stay objective as the details unfold.)
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It's called:
Are You Ready for Infidelity?
Self Assessment, Evaluation, and Treatment for the Three Stages of Infidelity.
As I mentioned ALL therapists who work with infidelity will be challenged during the three stages after infidelity in different ways.
I hope you get some valuable insights and skills from this guide. It took me years to gain confidence and learn valuable strategies and skills to use with couples recovering after infidelity.
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To summarize the downloadable guide above, before you have a chance to review it, I focus on three important areas:
- Self assessment for you as a therapist, and the specific personal developmental capacities needed for working with couples and infidelity.
- The evaluation process for determining the meaning of the affair and for developing a treatment plan.
- A one page summary of the treatment issues for each of the three stages of infidelity.
This will give you a foundation to get you started working with couples and infidelity. Because no two couples are alike, you’re going to encounter many challenging situations (or perhaps you have already).[/text_block]

- really overwhelmed when they first come into your office because the conflict is so intense. Their self awareness may be minimal and they end up seeming resistant to changes you suggest.
- less confident about confronting the deceptive partner – and whether to confront them alone or in a couples session.
- challenged because it’s hard to manage individual needs and vulnerabilities while keeping both partners involved – and still move the couple forward in a positive way.
- a lot of tension because it can be so difficult to keep their anger directed in a beneficial way without it becoming a screaming match – and then they leave feeling worse than when they came in.
- uncertain when the deceptive partner verbalizes empathy and you can sense the insincerity.

So, with all of these possible situations, it can be hard to feel secure in your choices of interventions.
Whether you’re trying to diagnose what you should do next at a certain stage, or get the confidence you need to take control of the sessions – it doesn’t matter – I can help you work with couples efficiently and effectively using strategies that I’ve developed with my husband, Dr. Peter Pearson, for over 30 years now.
Based on where you are right now, what you want to do is find a solution that specifically addresses your unique situation.

Ideally you want a resource that walks you through many of the steps you need to take next. For example:

- How to delineate each partner’s goals and keep them on track – while giving them feedback in a way that will not be taken as criticism or judgment.
- How to assess motivation at the start to see what is needed.
- How to move conflicted couples into each seeing their contributions.
- Trusting yourself; how to be less nervous, stay present in the moment like you are good at doing with your individual clients.
- Creating a solid treatment plan and helping couples establish clear goals.

Hi, I'm Dr. Ellyn Bader.
I am the co-founder and co-director of The Couples Institute and co-creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, with my husband, Dr. Peter Pearson.
When we created the Developmental Model over 30 years ago, it helped launched the specialty of couples therapy. It has not only withstood the test of time, but all of the strategies and interventions are built upon the Developmental Model of Couples Therapy, which I created with my husband.
But it wasn’t always easy, and I really struggled working with couples when I first started. In fact, I probably wasn’t doing some of the couples any favors, and maybe worse.
I want to give you the tools and strategies I’ve learned so that it won’t take you years to discover them.
After helping thousands of therapists like you, I know I can help you, too.


Affairs in Couples Therapy is a one hour training session with a written transcript about working with couples where one partner has had an affair.[/text_block]

You’ll learn specific aspects of diagnosis and treatment:
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- How to evaluate the meaning of an affair.
- Some core treatment issues in the initial, middle and termination stages of treatment.
- The value of obsessing about an affair and its details.
- What obsessing about an affair does and does not accomplish.
- How to organize what you know about the couple into a treatment plan.


Downloadable MP3 audio of the session
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PDF copy of the Transcript
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Get Affairs in Couples Therapy
Price: $40
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“I feel a sense of empowerment that I’ve never felt before, and that means everything when doing the difficult work of couples therapy.”
“Ellyn has helped me to become a competent couples therapist. Working with couples can be anxiety provoking. You never know what you are going to be confronted with and how someone is going to react to what their partner might say or do.
I now feel confident and grounded in knowing that I have many options on how to manage hostile-angry and conflict-avoidant couples. I feel a sense of empowerment that I’ve never felt before, and that means everything when doing the difficult work of couples therapy.”
Elany Mueller, LMFT Pasadena, California

Dr. Ellyn Bader and Dr. Peter Pearson, Ph.D. have been featured in:
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