Ellyn Bader

The Motivation Equation will pinpoint whether you need to stress systemic or individual work for each partner.

Claudia, a trainee in my Developmental Model program, said “Most useful is the ability to identify where the the individual is actually stuck, so interventions can be much more targeted.”

If you’re ready for more targeted interventions, check out The Motivation Equation video above.


Act Now

  1. My Developmental Model training program teaches couples therapists to understand motivation and leverage it for progress. The program is currently closed but you can click Developmental Model to read about it and get on the waiting list here. 
  2. Please comment below if you have a couple for whom this equation would be useful. How might you use it?

This article is part of a 10-part series. Read the others at the links below:

#1  7 Traits of the Hostile Angry Couple

#2  5 Symbiotic Beliefs that Prevent Relationship Growth

#3  How Assessing Motivation Helps You

#5  Why Trust Is So Fragile

#6  How Do You Build Trust?

#7  What Can Bruce Lee Teach You About Angry Couples?

#8  4 Diagnostic Questions

#9  Going Deeper: Moving from Hostile Symbiosis into Differentiation

#10 What do diets and fighting couples have in common?



Ellyn Bader, Ph.D., is Co-Founder & Director of The Couples Institute and creator of The Developmental Model of Couples Therapy. Ellyn is widely recognized as an expert in couples therapy, and since 2006 she has led innovative online training programs for therapists. Professionals from around the world connect with her through internet, conference calls and blog discussions to study couples therapy.

Ellyn’s first book, "In Quest of the Mythical Mate," won the Clark Vincent Award by the California Association of Marriage & Family Therapists for its outstanding contribution to the field of marital therapy and is now in its 18th printing. She has been featured on over 50 radio and television programs including "The Today Show" and "CBS Early Morning News," and she has been quoted in many publications including "The New York Times," "The Oprah Magazine" and "Cosmopolitan."

    Find more about me on:
  • googleplus

Tags: , Forward to a Colleague

Please Comment ↴