Revitalize Your Relationship,
and Build on the Magic You Once Had!

Dear Friend,

There are a lot of bad marriages out there today. Probably some that shouldn’t even be marriages. But a lot more of them that could be helped…

What about yours?

Have you been married a while, and recognize some negative habits you’d like to change? Are you dealing with the complexities of a second or third marriage, and determined to make this one work? Are you frustrated with your current approach to disagreements?

Many partners have a chronic negative cycle that they don’t seem to be able to stop by themselves. And then of course there is the other side of the coin…

Recently engaged couples, hoping to live forever in the rosy glow. Newlyweds who have resolved to make their honeymoon last a lifetime. Or you could simply be a happily married couple—who would like to make things even better.

If any of these situations describe your relationship—you will be very interested in a special workshop, created exclusively for couples. It’s called:

Coming From Your Heart

It is a weekend devoted to keeping love, passion, and respect in your marriage or long-term relationship. It’s a special chance for you and your partner to breathe new life into your relationship.

You really can overcome many relationship challenges, and restore and renew your love for one another. If you join me at this workshop, you and your partner will learn how to:

• Express yourself with focused clarity;
• Collaborate as a team;
• Disagree without nasty arguments;
• Negotiate with each other;
• Bring out the best in each other;
• Reduce stress;
• Ask questions that unite instead of divide, and,
• Recapture the magic you once had!

You and your partner will learn the latest proven techniques to repair, renew, and restore your relationship. You’ll see demonstrations of other couples resolving tough issues, you will learn about the predictable evolution of couples’ relationships, and you will develop new skills to manage negative feelings so you can re-energize your relationship.

At Coming From Your Heart, you’ll be able to practice your new skills with a professional therapist, who will help you get unstuck, and keep you on a positive track. Unlike any other couples workshops, we have a ratio of one therapist for every two couples participating.

So whenever we break into very small groups for practice, you have the benefit of a trained professional there to help you. The unique format of this workshop provides considerable privacy. At no time during the workshop do you need to reveal anything you don’t want to.

If you approach this workshop with the goal of solving a problem, you are aiming too low. At this workshop you will learn skills that fundamentally alter the way you and your partner talk to each other under stress. You will also learn to think, feel and act more constructively when difficulties arise. These innovative tools and techniques allow you to dodge inefficient, debilitating problem solving and get to the heart of the matter. You will bring out the best in each other while breathing new life and energy into depleted parts of your relationship.

However, it’s only fair to warn you…

If you want to experience the joy and fulfillment of the ultimate relationship, you’re going to have to be willing to do some of the work!

You will get dramatic results to the degree you are willing to escape the prison of “victim-hood,” and take responsibility for reaching the awesome potential of your relationship. Exceptional outcomes occur if you are open minded enough to:

• Systematically improve your relationship in two days.
• Try revolutionary techniques to immediately improve communication;
• Create clarity and action and release confusion and passivity;
• Admit that some of the problems come from you;
• Believe you can improve what you do before your partner stops being defensive or controlling;
• Believe you are responsible for what you feel, think, and do.

Now if you are willing to take some responsibility and really want to work things out—this weekend will be the best thing you have ever done…

If you have been living in a prison of blame, withdrawal, passivity, or resentful compliance, I will help you escape. No matter how miserable your life has been, you and your partner can create the relationship you wish. I will provide the plan and innovative tools to break out. You provide the desire and daring.

Work on yourself first…

The willingness to work on yourself is the most important concept of the entire weekend. Do this, and the weekend will pay a lifetime of benefits for your relationship. You will go from frustration to fulfillment.

Of course you have the right to expect—even insist your partner make the necessary adjustments to co-create the intimacy and partnership you long for. But you have to do your part as well. You do this by strengthening your positives and releasing ineffective responses. This weekend is not just about relationships, it’s about succeeding in life. It’s not about preaching, it’s about helpful strategies that work.

Of course you have things you want your partner to change. So you will learn how to discuss those problems constructively instead of combatively. These innovative strategies go way beyond active listening and "I messages." You will also acquire the tools to avoid the death spiral of most relationships—relentless finger pointing or corrosive withdrawal.

A brief overview of the weekend…

On Saturday morning, you will learn the attitudes of flourishing relationships and the knowledge of how to implant those attitudes in your heart and your mind. Saturday afternoon you will practice these techniques and then combine them with a communication process that releases you from painful, repeating patterns.

Now you are beginning to form the foundation of a true interdependent team…

As a new team you can look at creating a new vision for your relationship.

Will there be snags? Of course! That’s why on Sunday you will learn negotiation, problem solving, and decision making strategies designed just for couples.

You will have time to practice these skills under the direct supervision of therapists, brought to this workshop for the sole purpose of guiding you in these exercises.

This workshop begins before you even show up…

After you register, I will send you a set of guiding principles for better relationships. They will help you focus your efforts for the weekend. You will also get some action steps to take before we meet. Our time together is precious and we will make the absolute best of it.

From years of experience…

For more than 20 years, I have been helping couples resolve issues and create strong, loving relationships. In 1984 I co-founded The Couples Institute in Menlo Park California with my wife Dr. Ellyn Bader. We’ve helped all kinds of couples work through all kinds of challenges to enjoy enduring love and intimacy. I’ve put together all of that experience to create a workshop that will help you and your partner discover that special feeling you had when you first met.

Don’t just take my word this weekend can help. Here is what a few previous attendees have said about the strategies and principles you will learn.

The next workshops take place October 24-25, 2009 and February 27-28, 2010.

When and Where…

The location is Network Meeting Center in Santa Clara, California. We'll work together from 9 am to 5 pm on Saturday, and from 9 to 4 on Sunday. Couples often fly in for a long weekend and make it the ultimate renewal getaway.

What’s the cost?

The workshop fee is only $697 per couple. That’s quite a value when you think of the personalized attention you receive and the results you’re going to receive. It even comes with a:

No Risk Guarantee.

Here’s my promise. If after the first day you believe that you are not learning more effective ways of being together, we will gladly refund your registration fee.

Register online now…
(Secure your reservation with a $100 deposit)

Call 650-327-5915 or toll free 877-327-5915. Contact us by email at admin@couplesinstitute.com and we will help you with your registration.

Still wondering if this could help your relationship?
Here’s what a few other past attendees of the workshop have to say:

Don’t miss out on this important event…

I’ve presented this workshop several times a year for almost ten years, and everyone agrees that it has evolved into a truly amazing weekend. The size of our group is limited by the number of therapists we have available to help. So please, register now to ensure your space. (We will secure your reservation with a $100 deposit.)

If you’re not sure about your particular situation, and you’d like to discuss your readiness with someone in my office, call our toll free number (877) 327-5915, Monday through Friday mornings or click here to email me.

It’s been both a real pleasure and an honor to see so many couples reach breakthroughs over the years. I hope I’ll soon be adding your names to the list!

Sincerely,

Peter Pearson, Ph.D.

P.S. Remember that space is severely limited, because of the personal attention you will receive from the professional therapists. We often have to turn away couples who sign up too late. Please don’t let that happen to you.

Your personal information is secure with us and your satisfaction is guaranteed. If after the first day you believe that you are not learning more effective ways of being together, we will gladly refund your registration fee.